4 Things Good Men Do
By Ben Godwin
In 1779, in Rhode Island, USMC Captain William Jones advertised in the March 20th edition of the Providence Gazette a need for “A Few Good Men.” That phrase would serve as the Us Marines recruiting slogan for the next 200-plus years.
Uncle Sam is not the only one either.
God is also looking for a few good men, or maybe even some not-so-good-men He can transform into spiritual champions.
One of the most important attributes a man can have in God’s eyes is faithfulness.
Too often, in the warped value system of our culture, we look for the wrong characteristics to evaluate people. We look on the surface level at appearance, talent, personality, intelligence, charm, humor, skill, money, or success. God is looking for the rare quality of faithfulness. “Most men will proclaim each his own goodness, but who can find a faithful man?” (Proverbs 20:6, NKJV)
Faithfulness means “adhering firmly to a person, idea, or cause, true to one’s word, promises, or vows, steady in allegiance or affection.” Synonyms include: trustworthy, loyal, true, constant, steadfast, dependable, devoted, and committed.
What a lofty goal to aspire to! Solomon stated, “A faithful man will abound with blessings” (Proverbs 28:20). This generation desperately needs positive male role models, who are faithful in the following four areas.
1. Faithfulness to God
True Christian men need to model their faith. Our families need to see us make God’s house, His Word and prayer a top priority, not just an afterthought.
I was fortunate to have a godly father. I never heard my dad curse, never saw him drink, gamble, or mistreat my mother. I regularly saw him reading the Bible, praying, listening to Christian radio, taking us to church and supporting various ministries.
I observed him working long hours to provide for my mom and six kids. He started a hardware business in our garage from scratch and kept on scratching and saw it flourish into an 80,000 square foot warehouse with over 60 employees and 15 delivery trucks.
Besides being a successful businessman, my dad was an ordained minister and an elder in our church. He led me to salvation as a child during family devotions and baptized me. Over the years, he’s witnessed to countless clients and customers, won many to Christ and helped disciple many people in their faith, all because he was faithful to God.
2. Faithfulness to Your Wife
We are living in an age of infidelity. Sex scandals fill the headlines on a weekly basis. Be aware that the devil wants to destroy your home and marriage too. So protect your household and guard your thoughts.
Adultery doesn’t start in the bed; it starts in your head! If you’re married, you have forfeited the right to flirt with anyone other than your spouse.
The Bible commands husbands to love our wives as Christ loved the church. That doesn’t mean sitting on a throne and barking out orders. It means being a servant leader and laying down our lives for the greater good of our family. By the way, Jesus, the head of the church, didn’t save the church on a throne. He saved it on a cross.
Good marriages don’t just happen. You’ve got to work at it by practicing togetherness. Too many married couples live separate lives and just share the same address, setting themselves up for an affair. Anything neglected deteriorates.
So nurture your marriage. Invest time, attention, and energy into your spouse and watch your relationship thrive.
3. Faithfulness to Your Children
A father’s responsibility extends beyond putting food on the table, clothes on backs, and a roof over heads. God wants us to be the spiritual leaders of our homes.
Too many men drop the ball and shirk their responsibility of spiritual leadership and take a back seat to their wives. Men should adopt the spirit of Joshua, who said, “As for me and my house, we will serve the Lord” (Joshua 24:15) and lead by example.
We are all too familiar with deadbeat dads who have abandoned their kids. But there is another problem—dads who make a god out of their work, sports, and hobbies and are not involved in their kid’s lives.
Make a regular attempt to connect verbally and emotionally with your kids. Rules without relationship result in rebellion.
We teach our kids to swim, walk, talk, read, ride bikes and play ball. But do we teach them how to pray, read the Bible, respect God’s house, honor women, and make spiritual things a priority?
The greatest gift we can give our children is not our name, our looks or our material possessions—it’s our time. Someone said, “Children spell love T-I-M-E.” Let’s pass on a rich spiritual heritage to the next generation.
4. Faithfulness to Your Job
1 Corinthians 4:2 reads, “It is required in stewards, that one be found faithful.” An employer will not hire, much less promote, someone they can’t rely on. Paul wrote, “But if anyone does not provide for his own … household, he has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever (1 Timothy 5:8).
Your work is more than just a way to make a living. If done well, it honors God and becomes a form of worship. Unfortunately, there are many who have a sense of entitlement. They expect something for nothing. The old saying is true, “The only place where success comes before work is in the dictionary.”
The wisest man wrote, “Whatever your hand finds to do, do it with all your might” (Ecclesiastes 9:10, NIV). Faithful men work hard, take pride in their labor and pay their bills.
The ultimate goal of a faithful man is to hear these words from the lips of Jesus, “Well done, good and faithful servant; you were faithful over a few things, I will make you ruler over many things. Enter into the joy of your Lord” (Matthew 25:21).
God rewards faithfulness both in this life and for all eternity. You may not be one of the few or the proud to serve in the US Marine Corps, be we are all called to serve faithfully as good soldiers in the army of God.
God is looking for a few good men.