Whats your plans for the day?

[Carl]

What are you doing? Covering your whole back yard?

 

[Ghoti Ichthus]

There is a bison farm not too far from where I am but I have never seen them in the wild.

Sometimes, bison, like other farm animals end up on roads, etc. because of breaks in fences . . .

As a Reserve Deputy, I helped herd/chase farm animals off the roadways. Those of us on foot or in a patrol car weren't nearly as efficient as Deputies on horseback. That Department still has a mounted posse

 

[Chris]

What are you doing? Covering your whole back yard?

Oh no, I am doing the two sides along the privacy fence and the long backside of the yard. The mulch will come out anywhere from 3 to 6 feet on one side depending on the curves. The other side was about 3-4 feet from the privacy fence.

Now, about that long back fence.

The reason I was short is that I came out initially about 9 feet from the back privacy fence due to the slope to the property behind us. But my wife decided after I ordered that she wanted to come out about 15 feet.

The sides of the back yard are about 60 feet each. The back privacy fence is about 80-90 feet.

So, I told her you know why we were short? She says no. I said because you had to come out 6 feet more from when I initially measured. She just looked at me.

However, one good reason for coming out further is that there use to be a lot of little oak trees on the back property line that had grown up over the 28 years we have been in the house. I had a tree service cut down back about a year ago along with the ones on one of the yard. There are still lots of little stumps, roots, etc. that are left that I've been working on.

So, doing the back 15 feet is a real pain to do each time I mow the back grass. Well, now that it is covered in mulch I don't have to worry about that anymore. Very happy camper.

I'll save time on mowing and the mower will last longer as it not good when I accidentally hit one.

 

[Andy C]

Yardwork, and preparing the RV for a 3 night stay at a local RV park. Before we go on a long trip, we need to stay local, test out all the systems and if anything is wrong, the RV shop is close by for warranty repairs. Our granddaughter will be dropped off to our site on Saturday, and spend one day and night with us.

 

[Carl]

I am going to install a TV antenna that I purchased to see if it can improve reception enough that I don't lose channels periodically.

 

[Ghoti Ichthus]

WARNING! (RANT)

This morning, Dad spilled sticky OJ on a bunch of stuff because he refuses to use his walker when fixing and carrying his breakfast and lunch to the table, so I had to clean that up. And he had messed up getting his breakfast together in the first place, so I had to fix that, too. I killed time on RF waiting for everything to heat up, then put it on the table for his royal highness, and went to church. Between leaving a lot later than I wanted, road construction, and "event parking" downtown, I never even made it to church So I came home, brought his royal highness over to the indoor mall for his walk, and now killing time on RF.

I really, really feel like God doesn't want me. Rationally I know it's not true, but I am so hurt and angry. God knows I need to worship and I need Holy Communion, and it really, really makes a huge difference for the whole week, but between missing church two weeks in a row, Dad doing stuff, both purposely and just because he's OLD and feeble, and the serious sleep deprivation, I'm really, really ready to just give up.

When we get home, I'm going to bed, and WOE to anyone that wakes me up for any reason before it's time for me to fix dinner.

Being an elder caregiver is killing me physically, mentally, and spiritually. I'm just DONE.

Sorry for such a negative post [sigh]

 

[Chris]

Praying for you Ghoti Ichthus.

 

[lightofmylife]

WARNING! (RANT)

This morning, Dad spilled sticky OJ on a bunch of stuff because he refuses to use his walker when fixing and carrying his breakfast and lunch to the table, so I had to clean that up. And he had messed up getting his breakfast together in the first place, so I had to fix that, too. I killed time on RF waiting for everything to heat up, then put it on the table for his royal highness, and went to church. Between leaving a lot later than I wanted, road construction, and "event parking" downtown, I never even made it to church So I came home, brought his royal highness over to the indoor mall for his walk, and now killing time on RF.

I really, really feel like God doesn't want me. Rationally I know it's not true, but I am so hurt and angry. God knows I need to worship and I need Holy Communion, and it really, really makes a huge difference for the whole week, but between missing church two weeks in a row, Dad doing stuff, both purposely and just because he's OLD and feeble, and the serious sleep deprivation, I'm really, really ready to just give up.

When we get home, I'm going to bed, and WOE to anyone that wakes me up for any reason before it's time for me to fix dinner.

Being an elder caregiver is killing me physically, mentally, and spiritually. I'm just DONE.

Sorry for such a negative post [sigh]

God is not your enemy but is. He wants to get Christians in fear, unbelief, discouragement, etc. ing for you to be uplifted and encouraged from your RF family, and friends.

 

[Baby Yoda]

Took 3 hours to put out. They dropped it at the top of the driveway. Bu

We used to get it dropped off like that years ago and do all the work ourselves. Now we pay the neighbor's landscaper to do the whole process for us.

 

[Baby Yoda]

hen we get home, I'm going to bed, and WOE to anyone that wakes me up for any reason before it's time for me to fix dinner.

Being an elder caregiver is killing me physically, mentally, and spiritually. I'm just DONE.

Sorry for such a negative post [sigh]

Also praying. You are doing a super tough job that no one is ever appreciated for. Hugs!

 

[Baby Yoda]

Ran some errands this afternoon and got a pair of new golf shoes. They are the Skechers "Arch Fit," which I'd been wanting to try. I love a good arch support.

 

[Carl]

Praying for you and your dad Ghoti Ichthus.

 

[Ghoti Ichthus]

.Thank you for all the prayers. Much needed and appreciated.

Didn't mean to throw a pity party or drag a wet blanket into the thread [sigh]

 

[Baby Yoda]

.Thank you for all the prayers. Much needed and appreciated.

Didn't mean to throw a pity party or drag a wet blanket into the thread [sigh]

Not at all. We just care.

 

[Andy C]

WARNING! (RANT)

This morning, Dad spilled sticky OJ on a bunch of stuff because he refuses to use his walker when fixing and carrying his breakfast and lunch to the table, so I had to clean that up. And he had messed up getting his breakfast together in the first place, so I had to fix that, too. I killed time on RF waiting for everything to heat up, then put it on the table for his royal highness, and went to church. Between leaving a lot later than I wanted, road construction, and "event parking" downtown, I never even made it to church So I came home, brought his royal highness over to the indoor mall for his walk, and now killing time on RF.

I really, really feel like God doesn't want me. Rationally I know it's not true, but I am so hurt and angry. God knows I need to worship and I need Holy Communion, and it really, really makes a huge difference for the whole week, but between missing church two weeks in a row, Dad doing stuff, both purposely and just because he's OLD and feeble, and the serious sleep deprivation, I'm really, really ready to just give up.

When we get home, I'm going to bed, and WOE to anyone that wakes me up for any reason before it's time for me to fix dinner.

Being an elder caregiver is killing me physically, mentally, and spiritually. I'm just DONE.

Sorry for such a negative post [sigh]

Is there no other possible options for care for your dad, or respite care for you to have some breaks?

 

[lightofmylife]

Is there no other possible options for care for your dad, or respite care for you to have some breaks?

Can any other siblings help? You could use a break. God Bless!

 

[Ghoti Ichthus]

Is there no other possible options for care for your dad, or respite care for you to have some breaks?

Not yet. Tomorrow when I go to the VA for me, I'll stop at his primary care clinic and see if I can get him in ASAP since his condition has suddenly deteriorated enough that I think he's eligible for at least some services.

Until we get significant outside help, there's no way I can take a day off, and Dad has to meet specific criteria for the VA to provide anything. Although, I've been told once services start, getting them upped is relatively easy, as those providing services can recommend at least some things to the care coordinator, as needed. Before last week, Dad definitely didn't qualify. Going to the grocery, my medical appointments, etc. is what passes for a break [sigh]

Dad doesn't want to go to a facility, and if he did, his quality of life would go way down. At home, he can practice his violin a couple hours a day whenever he wants, have his breakfast and lunch when he wants, go out on the deck or in the porch, watch the birds and insects from his chair by the window in the living room, have good, home-made meals, more channels on the TV, etc.

There is no respite care from the VA for Veterans who are sole caregivers for elderly family members, even if they are Veterans, if they are not approved for VA-paid services. However, there is respite care for anyone, Veteran or not, who are sole caregivers for Veterans, who are approved for VA-paid services.

 

[Ghoti Ichthus]

Can any other siblings help? You could use a break. God Bless!

One sibling can't/won't do much due to work and distance, and the other can't/won't do anything and would be a real problem. I'd end up having to care for the second sibling and it would turn into "forever," so no, just no.

 

[Carl]

.Thank you for all the prayers. Much needed and appreciated.

Didn't mean to throw a pity party or drag a wet blanket into the thread [sigh]

I really understand what you are going through. Took care of my invalid wife for one month alone. That was enough. Like you had no real time for myself. Try to plan ahead and something would happen to end that plan. Sometimes have to wash bedding twice in day. She could no longer reliably tell when she had to go to toilet.

So praying for you and a miracle.

 

[JoyJoyJoy]

and see if I can get him in ASAP since his condition has suddenly deteriorated enough that I think he's eligible for at least some services.

That's a good idea. Sometimes a rapid decline can be caused by an infection.
Praying for you and your Dad.
I am glad he is able to play his violin.