Wearing Red/Yellow?

ReadyOrNot

Well-Known Member
I am chiming in very late on this thread. I was thinking a bit about the war on God given gender attributes, and one of the things that gays imitate about women and lesbians lose is the business of looking attractively feminine.

There is a world of difference between being attractive, meaning making the best of things within the constraints of your personal life (budget, time etc) without taking away from priorities (taking time for reading God's Word, prayer, doing the work God has in front of you each day)

and

being what the world calls "sexy" meaning allure for the sake of drawing men's attention. That would include dressing to cause envy in other women (I can afford Chanel, you can't sort of attitude or I'm up to the minute in fashion, sucks to be you attitude.) That is another negative drawing attention.

But there is another extreme and that is drawing negative attention by being obviously non feminine. (the obvious attention grabbing weird hair and clothing and lack of makeup that borders on the scary--the look that goes into no makeup ever, and almost seeks out the least feminine or attractive clothes)

I see the balance as not scaring the multitudes off of Christianity, and being a glory to my husband, not embarrassing him or becoming (heaven forfend) alluring to other men. Modest but not weird.

That as several of you point out is very much a cultural thing, and local norms may vary. I like the YMMV acronym for "your mileage may vary".

Due to my auto immune issues, my eyebrows are almost gone, and I look sick without a little help so I view makeup and good colour choice in clothing as essential to my husband's mental health, not to mention mine, all while reminding the enemy that while I may be losing a health battle here and there, I'm still here fighting. It's almost like me sending a message that I'm not losing the war at all, not no how, I'm still kicking, serving God and if the enemy stole my eyebrows I'm not taking it lying down!

So I put my makeup on every morning, replacing those eyebrows, evening out the skin with a little powder on top of Olay sunscreen (no need to deteriorate any faster than I have to). I stick a nice neutral blush on to replace the colour I've lost, beige eyeshadow to hide the dark marks and redness, mascara to enhance the lashes I have left, and lipstick to give back normal looking colour. When I'm done, I look nice but it's not the kind of makeup that sells well in ads because unless you knew what I look like without it, you wouldn't think I have any on at all. At night I carefully remove it and put good retinol cream on from Neutrogena (cheap & effective). I get the makeup from Clinique and Estee Lauder to send another message that I'm supporting Jewish business, especially the Lauder group so in your face BDS movement.

I wasn't graying attractively, so I dye the hair a shade that still looks normal with my skin and age. I get a regular cut so I look like I take care of myself which keeps my husband happy, because he doesn't like it when I skimp on hair cuts. I used to do it myself with sewing shears and a vacuum cleaner to hold the hair up and out checking for off cut areas, but I found a gal that does it for a bargain rate, and dh is happier.

I'm careful with colour choice because some colours next to my face make me look better, and some definitely the opposite. Since I refuse to look any sicker than I have to, I employ more feminine weapons and use good colour that looks good on me.

I choose classic clothing that never exposes extra flesh partly for modesty but also because those clothes are sunscreen, and as with the face cream, no need to wrinkle out and get freckles in places I don't have to. :rolleyes: I find by basing my clothes on neutrals with pops of happy colour it keeps my dh cheery and me too. Plus it's easy on the budget.

I always wear a little jewelry that goes with the outfit of the day, it's often earrings from the clearance racks at my favourite clothing emporiums but I choose it like the makeup and clothes to emphasize that I'm not a man, I'm a woman, and I like to look nice for dh. I choose scarves often to help preserve my clothes (a chic form of a bib if you ask me) as well as add a soft feminine touch of colour and print to my very neutral classic outfits.

I want to emphasize that it's ok to be feminine. We don't have to do the christian version of the burka and almost erase ourselves from existence. I notice and deeply approve of the feminine prints and cuts that some of the ladies on this thread use. It's going to be different for everyone. Someone may dress all in grey, and that can look stunning too. I wear pants often, but they are never too tight, and always in a dark neutral and classic cut and fabric.

My bottom line (pun intended):D is that it should glorify God first and foremost and for those of us with husbands, it should please them. This means there isn't one look fits all. Nor a single makeup technique or hairdo that works for all but in all things we do glorify God by showing that we are thankful we were created female. And that means a feminine modest joyous approach to our appearance.
I couldn’t agree more!
 

ByGod'sGrace

under His wings - Psalm 91:4
This is a really good thread to read. Thank you all for sharing! My mom raised my three sisters and me to dress modestly (almost too modestly in some respects, as for a long time I had shame associated with my body). I love wearing blue and green colors, as God made flowers and beautiful colors for us to see. I am a painter and writer, so I express myself with the use of color. As long as things aren't tight or low, or have the "man-catcher" vibe, then I think it is ok to wear color. I only wear mascara because I have blondish eyelashes. I have never colored my hair, and never curl it, but if I braid it in a French braid at night, in the morning, it is wavy. I think we should embrace our femininity. God loves to create, and I think it is really fun to find cute, modest clothes in thrift stores that have a lot of color. :) Sometimes I wear some of my grandma's dresses from the 40s. They are really cut well and make me feel like twirling when I wear them. One is a light pink color with a wide belt (it is my favorite!).
 

AnewcreationinJesus

Soon and very soon ....
Personally I love purple ...

I need more purple clothes!!!!!!

Yeah shall we say my clothes code ain't what it was 20 years ago...now I kind of prefer to not stand out in a way that might be revealing or whatever. ....I still love purple!!!

And was pleased to find a "skater" dress I think the style is called for a wedding two years ago which kind of flared out and finished just above knee with high neckline and was a lovely turquoise colour - wanted to dress nice but not chest flashing etc!!

If I should happen to be placed in a recent amateur composing competition I entered well it would be a floor length kind of dress I would hunt for with a cover up little jacket over the top...and yup - it would probably be purple, blue or turquoise :)
 
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Lynn

Longing for Home
If I should happen to be placed in a recent amateur composing competition I entered well it would be a floor length kind of dress I would hunt for with a cover up little jacket over the top...and yup - it would probably be purple, blue or turquoise
This is kind of exciting! We'd love to hear about it if you do place in the competition. And, it would be fun if we could help 'pick out' your dress for the occasion. Of course, it would still have to be purple, blue, or turquoise. Love those colors!
 

Ghoti Ichthus

Pray so they do not serve alone. Ephesians 6:10-20
During Church of God In Christ (COGIC) (very conservative denomination) conventions in St. Louis, they specify a different color of dress for the ladies each day. It's a veritable fashion show. I, personally don't like it because so much money is spent on clothing. Red and white are two of the colors, but I don't remember the others.

Another very conservative denomination, The Lutheran Church-Missouri Synod (LCMS), women wear something "tasteful" to church. Any color is fine. Red is encouraged on Life Sunday and Pentecost, but not required. Hats are optional, and most don't wear them any more. Far fewer wear gloves. I haven't worn either since I was a little girl. If someone comes in, who obviously is wearing what they have, no one objects or shuffles them off to the side/back. Some congregations are far less formal than others, especially during outdoor services.
 

Ghoti Ichthus

Pray so they do not serve alone. Ephesians 6:10-20
Personally I love purple ...

I need more purple clothes!!!!!!

Yeah shall we say my clothes code ain't what it was 20 years ago...now I kind of prefer to not stand out in a way that might be revealing or whatever. ....I still love purple!!!

And was pleased to find a "skater" dress I think the style is called for a wedding two years ago which kind of flared out and finished just above knee with high neckline and was a lovely turquoise colour - wanted to dress nice but not chest flashing etc!!

If I should happen to be placed in a recent amateur composing competition I entered well it would be a floor length kind of dress I would hunt for with a cover up little jacket over the top...and yup - it would probably be purple, blue or turquoise :)

A bright, shiny gold or silver metallic/sequinned type short jacket over the long gown is very elegant, tasteful, and appropriate for solo-type stage performances and awards dinners/ceremonies. Matching colored metal jewelry to the jacket. If you have a (very small) purse, same color as the jacket or dress, and match the shoes to one or the other, depending. Fabric shoes and purses can be dyed. Some leathers/suedes can also be dyed. Watch the jacket color and your skin tone, just as you would the color of your dress. Example: orange and yellow look terrible on me, and so does gold.

Be careful, as a lot of modern fabrics are pretty see-through when back-lit :eek

Yeah, I have a lot of stage experience in the music world :rolleyes
 

ChildofLight

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My color is pink. I get lots of compliments when I wear the pink. I love red but it turns my face red and I’ve even been asked if I was sick just because my face was red. I remember one of my high school pictures I had a red dress on and my face was very red. I quit wearing red at that point.
 

GotGrace

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Just wondering what y'alls opinion is on this.

My understanding of how Christian ladies should dress is that we should not draw attention to ourselves by what we wear. I've put together/made a few long skirt/cardigan outfits. Most of what I have at the moment is either black or various shades of grey. I'm just weird in that I actually like grey (growing up near Seattle?), and I can mix/match most things.

In this area, I am not sure what is too legalistic, and what is not. Would wearing a red or yellow cardi/flats be considered attention grabbing? I don't want to wear red to get attention, but because I like red, too. However, I've heard both yes and no and am a little confused. I'm a very pale brunette, it that makes any difference. :scratch: :idunno:

Thoughts?
As a born again believer I believe clothing should not be real short or low cut so you can see all the way to the lungs.:lol However I love knock your socks off colors and I don’t consider it bringing attention to myself. At my age if I want wore a super tight or super short dress it would be a spectacle.
 

Channah

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Just wondering what y'alls opinion is on this.

My understanding of how Christian ladies should dress is that we should not draw attention to ourselves by what we wear. I've put together/made a few long skirt/cardigan outfits. Most of what I have at the moment is either black or various shades of grey. I'm just weird in that I actually like grey (growing up near Seattle?), and I can mix/match most things.

In this area, I am not sure what is too legalistic, and what is not. Would wearing a red or yellow cardi/flats be considered attention grabbing? I don't want to wear red to get attention, but because I like red, too. However, I've heard both yes and no and am a little confused. I'm a very pale brunette, it that makes any difference. :scratch: :idunno:

Thoughts?
God made all the colors of the world. If you like red wear red. A nice red skirt with a black top or vice versa. I love wearing leather pants and topping them with a black over blouse and sparkling glittery dresses. I think it’s the skimpy outfits that are not acceptable or we should be wearing.
 
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