This is beautiful sister. God doesn't have to but chooses to reward such obedience. You will be blessed and be a blessing.I followed up with my husband and apologized for not being respectful and after much prayer I told him I will support his decision. I have been reflecting on Sarah's example with Abraham and how she expressed her concerns with Ishmael and how Abraham disagreed. Yet God intervened on her behalf that time and many times before.
I haven't trusted God in this and have just focused on how my husband isn't doing what I want based on my concerns. I did make one request that we see the Pastor in preparation should she live with us. He said he would like that since establishing rules will be new for us with her.
I'm extremely grateful for all of the Godly counsel I received here. I knew I would get the truth and not be appeased. I am grateful I can serve God in this way by obeying his command to respect and obey my husband. I pray that God will use this to lead them both to salvation.
I will definitely need a lot of prayers to endure whatever comes whether she moves in or not. It will be difficult and test me just as becoming a mother will. God bless you my brothers and sisters in Christ!