Porn Is Rewiring a Whole Generation, Christians Included

kathymendel

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When you add up how social media has reduced our human contact to short, abbrieviated texts, rather than person to person
look-you-in-the-eye conversations............
And, the world is pushing sixteen different sexual proclivities, rather than the two that God created.........
And, the pornography that is readily available on computers, tv shows, movies, etc.
No wonder the world is rapidly going down the drain!

When I read of the antichrist having no desire for women........... (or however it is worded) ......... I can almost see how the cultural
degradations we are seeing today are playing into the days ahead on this earth. It leads me to believe that we are closer to going
home than we can even imagine, and could happen at any time.
 

pixelpusher

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When I read of the antichrist having no desire for women........... (or however it is worded) .

The wording is important. This is not a sexual preference reference. It says the AC will have no regard for the gods of his fathers, or the One desired by women, or any god. It was the desire of Hebrew women to be the one to birth the Messiah, who was due to come from the seed of the woman. Mary was called "highly favored" as she was the one chosen to birth Jesus. The AC will have no regard for Him, the One desired by women.
 

MapleLeaf

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The wording is important. This is not a sexual preference reference. It says the AC will have no regard for the gods of his fathers, or the One desired by women, or any god. It was the desire of Hebrew women to be the one to birth the Messiah, who was due to come from the seed of the woman. Mary was called "highly favored" as she was the one chosen to birth Jesus. The AC will have no regard for Him, the One desired by women.
Yes, this. Way too many people interpret this as it's worded in English. It wasn't written with English speakers of the 21st century in mind. He is the anti-Messiah so he goes against everything the Hebrew women would have wished for.
 

MapleLeaf

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I struggle with the same battles. I want to protect my son from all of the filth especially the sexually perverse culture. I feel overwhelmed like it's an uphill battle.

Like you said, it only takes one quick moment from another child to expose them to porn. It happened to me when I was 12 and another girl showed me her dads porn mags during a sleepover. I immediately called my mom and she picked me up. It freaked me out. Sadly then I discovered my dad's porn tapes at home and it started me down on a long road of porn addiction.

I don't know what could have been done differently apart from not having your own porn addiction as a parent. Now the internet is way more accessible and you can see porn even by complete accident. The other day I was searching for something online and the link I clicked showed up a spam pop up with porn images. I was furious. What if that had been my son looking for something for school?!?!

It just looks like the the only safe approach is no computer or internet access at all, no media without my screening, etc. Yet will he be unprepared to face the world as an adult and instead find all the perverse alluring? That is my fear.
My kids aren't allowed on the computer without me being present. They aren't even allowed to type their desired videos onto YouTube. I do it for them. I can't be at this level of control forever but they're still small and my eldest is special needs. My daughter borrows my iPod at night so she can listen to music (the Narnia movie soundtracks) and I turn off all the wi-fi and bluetooth and anything else that could make it connected.

I did sometimes see inappropriate movies when I was younger and was up late at night while babysitting and the kids were long asleep. There was no official porn but some of the movies shown on the Women's Network were close enough! I was both disgusted by it but also curious. Thankfully, God protected me from getting hooked or wanting to seek it out any further. I did have to have my eyes opened to the reality of "emotional porn" though with all the romantic comedies I watched. I think they can be just as titillating as the visual stuff. It's hard not to be curious sometimes and wonder if you 'measure up' to how the world expresses love...whether physical or emotional. It's so stupid because ignorance really is bliss.
 

NewWine2020

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My kids aren't allowed on the computer without me being present. They aren't even allowed to type their desired videos onto YouTube. I do it for them. I can't be at this level of control forever but they're still small and my eldest is special needs. My daughter borrows my iPod at night so she can listen to music (the Narnia movie soundtracks) and I turn off all the wi-fi and bluetooth and anything else that could make it connected.

I did sometimes see inappropriate movies when I was younger and was up late at night while babysitting and the kids were long asleep. There was no official porn but some of the movies shown on the Women's Network were close enough! I was both disgusted by it but also curious. Thankfully, God protected me from getting hooked or wanting to seek it out any further. I did have to have my eyes opened to the reality of "emotional porn" though with all the romantic comedies I watched. I think they can be just as titillating as the visual stuff. It's hard not to be curious sometimes and wonder if you 'measure up' to how the world expresses love...whether physical or emotional. It's so stupid because ignorance really is bliss.

My parents did the best they could but looking back I am absolutely horrified at what I would call parental negligence when it comes to what they not so much encouraged but allowed me to watch movie wise in the era of rental VCR stuff.

The big problem was that I had step brothers that were mid to late teens when I was 10 so it was totally normal for me to see stuff like “Friday the 13th” “Halloween“ “A clockwork Orange” and a whole slew of Charles Bronson revenge films...the movies today, though they are more “visually enhanced” but, imho I think are much less graphic and raw in terms of intensity and just plain mean-ness. I think that graphic movie Violence and especially sexualized violence at a young age is actually worse than the silly “teen sex” comedies like “fast Times @ Ridgmeont High” that proliferated back in the 1980’s.

My wife and I have no children (she can’t and I’m ”fixed”) but if we did I would totally be one of those parents who is all up in my child’s business with the parental monitoring. It’s supposed to be part fo the job of parenting and if parents are not willing to do that they should probably not be parents.
 

GHoe

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As a former porn addict this article doesn't surprise me. I've heard these stats before and I believe they are accurate.

The one thing they didn't address is what they call the law of diminishing returns. While this is used in economics it's also true with addictions. With drugs or alcohol it's obvious but with porn it's just as real. You have to get more perverse to get the same amount of dopamine released or produced to give you the same excitement.

They did a porn study a few years back. I can't remember the exact details but it involved hundreds of men. They were told to surf and look at porn, all they wanted. What was interesting was that no matter what type of porn they started out looking at they all ended up in one of two camps. Either they ended up looking at younger or S & M. That's the law of diminishing returns at work.

If you're struggling with this, please repent of this. It WILL destroy your life and marriage.

Here is a commentary from Albert Barnes on 1 Cor 6:18 about the word Flee. It's so on point. Please take the time to read it.

A solemn command of God - as explicit as any that thundered from Mount Sinai. None can disregard it with impunity - none can violate it without being exposed to the awful vengeance of the Almighty. There is force and emphasis in the word “flee”. Man should escape from it; he should not stay to reason about it; to debate the matter; or even to contend with his propensities, and to try the strength of his virtue. There are some sins which a man can resist; some about which he can reason without danger of pollution. But this is a sin where a man is safe only when he flies; free from pollution only when he refuses to entertain a thought of it; secure when he seeks a victory by flight, and a conquest by retreat. Let a man turn away from it without reflection on it and he is safe. Let him think, and reason, and he may be ruined. “The very passage of an impure thought through the mind leaves pollution behind it.” An argument on the subject often leaves pollution; a description ruins; and even the presentation of motives against it may often fix the mind with dangerous inclination on the crime. There is no way of avoiding the pollution but in the manner prescribed by Paul; there is no man safe who will not follow his direction. How many a young man would be saved from poverty, want, disease, curses, tears, and hell, could these two words be made to blaze before him like the writing before the astonished eyes of Belshazzar Dan. 5, and could they terrify him from even the momentary contemplation of the crime.
Really great post. Thank you
 

Jojo4124

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Oh be careful little eyes what you see...

The Bible tells us to "cut off" any body part that causes us to sin. I think it was Job? That made a covenant with his eyes to not sin thru them. It is difficult to go through our day n not have sexual things flashed at us.

I need my computer, but I can stop watching movies n things that take my mind in the wrong direction, etc. It is difficult today as there is SO MUCH thrown out there!

Its easy to say that women are objectified by porn, and they are...Biblical feminity isnt respected by many men or women in the world, or even in the church.

We are supposed to not conform. As a woman, am I causing my brothers to stumble by wearing clothing like worldly women do...low cut n tight tops that show parts of the body that turn men on? And women read romance novels about perfect men...that causes women to disrespect their spouse, and is emotional porn thru reading.

Our kids who have phones etc arw tempted to post sexy pics of themselves on social media just like unsaved kids do. I am sure that pedos look at that stuff all the time, posing as young teen boys.

When my youngest daughter was 13, she had posted pics of her feet because some stranger on social media asked her to. I shut that down, explaining to her that it starts there, then he'll ask for other body part pics. Parents, please monitor what your kids post! Seriously, pedos really do want your kids. And trafficking is very real.
 

MapleLeaf

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My parents did the best they could but looking back I am absolutely horrified at what I would call parental negligence when it comes to what they not so much encouraged but allowed me to watch movie wise in the era of rental VCR stuff.

The big problem was that I had step brothers that were mid to late teens when I was 10 so it was totally normal for me to see stuff like “Friday the 13th” “Halloween“ “A clockwork Orange” and a whole slew of Charles Bronson revenge films...the movies today, though they are more “visually enhanced” but, imho I think are much less graphic and raw in terms of intensity and just plain mean-ness. I think that graphic movie Violence and especially sexualized violence at a young age is actually worse than the silly “teen sex” comedies like “fast Times @ Ridgmeont High” that proliferated back in the 1980’s.

My wife and I have no children (she can’t and I’m ”fixed”) but if we did I would totally be one of those parents who is all up in my child’s business with the parental monitoring. It’s supposed to be part fo the job of parenting and if parents are not willing to do that they should probably not be parents.
Even amongst my peers at my Christian school I had very strict parents when it came to what I watched. My husband and I had many lively debates on what our approach would be on what we'd allow our kids to see. He loved the RL Stine Goosebumps stuff and things like that but I wasn't even allowed to watch Ninja Turtles as a kid. Though my mom later confessed that was largely due to how they were on EVERYTHING and kids seemed obsessed with it and she just didn't want to go there. LOL But now that I'm a mom, I get it. No need to be a contrarian all the time but sometimes it's good to learn to stand out a bit and not always go with the crowd. Paying companies to advertise for them is a little insulting.

Other than the Ninja Turtles, my parents did a pretty good job explaining why we weren't allowed to watch certain things so once we were older and given the freedom to choose a lot of that stuff didn't hold any appeal to me. I tell my kids a lot of stuff may say it's for kids but it doesn't mean it has good things in there. I explain that the people who made the shows don't love God so don't know what's right or wrong or even want them to disobey God. And I say that even adults need to be careful what they watch. That just because you're allowed to watch something doesn't mean you should. I'm not sure they understand yet but I keep trying. I really want them to have discernment and to know how to practice their freedoms wisely. I'm not legalistic about what people should and shouldn't watch. I mean, porn and gratuitous violence/hatred are not good for anybody. But I do know there is a lot of grey area. I still love older Disney, for instance. I now pick up copies at the thrift shop so the company doesn't get my dollars.

I can't even imagine giving my sweet children their own devices at this point.
 

Dave_97

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Even amongst my peers at my Christian school I had very strict parents when it came to what I watched.
That’s good, I think your parents did a great job. It might look a little harsh from the outside but it honestly in my opinion more wise. My parents are amazing parents, but unfortunately they were unaware of the dangers in the internet and it’s effects on the youth. I think I was 11 when an older kid from school told me to go google the four letters (porn) when I had access to the internet (I obviously did not knowing what it was). Took away my innocence and started a addiction that ultimately could only broken with Jesus at like 21 years old. I still have struggles, but Christ has given me incredible power to resist when I’m in his presence and I know one day I will be healed from all the damage it’s done.

I can't even imagine giving my sweet children their own devices at this point.
I’m no parent but I’d say dont do it. Atleast not a smartphone. A flip phone that can only call and send messages I think that’s fine as a teenager as long as you know who they contact. For a smartphone wait till they are a little older around 16 -18 years old ish in my opinion. I know that’s crazy in our day and age but according to what I’ve read and my personal experience, addictions such as porn are less likely to develop once the child’s brain has matured without early constant exposure. Porn exposure at a very young age is basically traumatic and a form of sex abuse if you think about it. We don’t hold it to that level because it’s mainly images and people on video. Yet we also wouldn’t allow a child to see two adults fully nude in person, yet that’s what what porn is, and our technology makes it easy to access. It’s also very graphic and violent.(I’m not trying to bring anyone down who has been abused, but I’m just bringing awareness to something that is almost similar in terms of damage it can do to children).

Typically the earlier the exposer to porn the harder it is to break since people have literally rewired their brain when it was still growing. Instead of being taught the proper way of sexuality (according to the Bible), the brain is taught to think according to what is done in porn. Hence the reason why even men can’t perform with a real women as mentioned in the article until they abstain from porn long enough for their brains to rewire back to its natural state (could take months to years).

A lot of later porn addiction problems as mentioned above can be avoided if parents get to their children first before porn has done it’s damage. This is because if early exposure is avoided, even when they have access to it on their older years it’s not as simple to develop an addictive habit that is hard to break. It’s why the number of porn users are high from teen years to 18-25 ish cause they were exposed to this stuff while younger.

The porn problem is much more devastating than people realize. Every time I see a young teen holding a smartphone I pray to God their parents have implemented some type of restrictions cause the stuff they can access is so damaging. Then again we were warned by Paul in the last days difficult times will come. I just hope Christ returns soon, such a struggle trying to live in purity in this day and age.
 

soundingthealarm

Fleethewrath2come
The one thing I'd encourage all believers who are battling an all out assault on every side, is TRUST the Lord will take you from faith to faith and from victory to victory. My point is the enemy would have us to focus on the times we lose a momentary battle instead of all the moments the Lord restrains us ...focus and celebrate every minute of victory all the time. Every time I drive down the interstate and am in the left hand lane trying to pass four semi's but the car in front of me is on cruise control going the exact same rate of speed as the vehicles on the right, I have to be restrained from honking the horn and not raging in the light lolol I celebrate the fact that I didn't honk the horn and recognize the work of God's presence in my life. BUT if I did honk the horn, I swiftly say "forgive me Lord" and drive on/press on!

There is imagery everywhere you turn.... that would of been labeled soft core porn in the 80's, and for the believer its aim is to bring defeat and condemnation....stealing the joy of our salvation. I see it as the enemy being in the form of Spider man trying to fling a web upon my life and enslave me in the moment with the purpose of stopping my daily walk in its trap.

Proverbs 24:16
For a righteous man may fall seven times
And rise again,
But the wicked shall fall by calamity.

70 X 7 is a weapon given us to get back up and press on in every single area of our lives, therefore there is now no condemnation in Christ Jesus.

I have 3 children 18, 23 and 24 and I am constantly reassuring them in this fight to remember God's promises in this battle cause darkness is growing more and more intense BUT all ya gotta do is TURN ON THE LIGHT and nothing simpler than "calling upon the name of Jesus" to do just that!!!

JESUS HELP US ALL, we need you every minute we need you!!! The world might be being rewired but we are being renewed!!
 

Dave_97

Well-Known Member
The one thing I'd encourage all believers who are battling an all out assault on every side, is TRUST the Lord will take you from faith to faith and from victory to victory. My point is the enemy would have us to focus on the times we lose a momentary battle instead of all the moments the Lord restrains us ...focus and celebrate every minute of victory all the time. Every time I drive down the interstate and am in the left hand lane trying to pass four semi's but the car in front of me is on cruise control going the exact same rate of speed as the vehicles on the right, I have to be restrained from honking the horn and not raging in the light lolol I celebrate the fact that I didn't honk the horn and recognize the work of God's presence in my life. BUT if I did honk the horn, I swiftly say "forgive me Lord" and drive on/press on!

There is imagery everywhere you turn.... that would of been labeled soft core porn in the 80's, and for the believer its aim is to bring defeat and condemnation....stealing the joy of our salvation. I see it as the enemy being in the form of Spider man trying to fling a web upon my life and enslave me in the moment with the purpose of stopping my daily walk in its trap.

Proverbs 24:16
For a righteous man may fall seven times
And rise again,
But the wicked shall fall by calamity.

70 X 7 is a weapon given us to get back up and press on in every single area of our lives, therefore there is now no condemnation in Christ Jesus.

I have 3 children 18, 23 and 24 and I am constantly reassuring them in this fight to remember God's promises in this battle cause darkness is growing more and more intense BUT all ya gotta do is TURN ON THE LIGHT and nothing simpler than "calling upon the name of Jesus" to do just that!!!

JESUS HELP US ALL, we need you every minute we need you!!! The world might be being rewired but we are being renewed!!
AMEN, this was an awesome post, loved it.
 

cheeky200386

Well-Known Member
The one thing I'd encourage all believers who are battling an all out assault on every side, is TRUST the Lord will take you from faith to faith and from victory to victory. My point is the enemy would have us to focus on the times we lose a momentary battle instead of all the moments the Lord restrains us ...focus and celebrate every minute of victory all the time. Every time I drive down the interstate and am in the left hand lane trying to pass four semi's but the car in front of me is on cruise control going the exact same rate of speed as the vehicles on the right, I have to be restrained from honking the horn and not raging in the light lolol I celebrate the fact that I didn't honk the horn and recognize the work of God's presence in my life. BUT if I did honk the horn, I swiftly say "forgive me Lord" and drive on/press on!

There is imagery everywhere you turn.... that would of been labeled soft core porn in the 80's, and for the believer its aim is to bring defeat and condemnation....stealing the joy of our salvation. I see it as the enemy being in the form of Spider man trying to fling a web upon my life and enslave me in the moment with the purpose of stopping my daily walk in its trap.

Proverbs 24:16
For a righteous man may fall seven times
And rise again,
But the wicked shall fall by calamity.

70 X 7 is a weapon given us to get back up and press on in every single area of our lives, therefore there is now no condemnation in Christ Jesus.

I have 3 children 18, 23 and 24 and I am constantly reassuring them in this fight to remember God's promises in this battle cause darkness is growing more and more intense BUT all ya gotta do is TURN ON THE LIGHT and nothing simpler than "calling upon the name of Jesus" to do just that!!!

JESUS HELP US ALL, we need you every minute we need you!!! The world might be being rewired but we are being renewed!!
AMEN
 
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