Porn Is Rewiring a Whole Generation, Christians Included

endofdays

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https://relevantmagazine.com/life5/porn-is-rewiring-a-whole-generation-christians-included/

Can sexlessness and erectile dysfunction really be growing phenomena among men in their twenties? Over the last decade, the percentage of American men between the ages of 18 and 30 who reported not having sex in the preceding year exploded from 10 percent to 28 percent.

In the three decades this statistic has been kept, this is by far the most significant percentage increase. At an age when young men’s sex drives are highest, this generation of young men is having less sex than ever recorded. But this doesn’t mean that these men have no sexual desire. For a growing number of men alive these days in our “pornified” society, their sexual desire for real women is being replaced by a desire for images and fantasy. Researcher and Sociologist Dr. Mark Regnerus blames porn for this new development:
 

GHoe

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I think technology as a whole is rewiring the generation. Porn is just the culmination of it. Hours and hours of video games and social media per day has a whole generation who actually prefer cyber interactions and relationships over in person relations (of all kinds) to include texting preferred to phone calls which came in strong in early 2000's (which I think was a huge catalyst to getting to this point with this generation).

All of which are highly addictive
Just my .02
 

Footsteps

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When you peddle sexy dolls to infants, and drown TV with model people whose body builds are inaccessible to the average person, you are diminishing the confidence of an “average” person. Then start producing lifelike dolls for two or three thousand dollars that look better than your spouse, and the problem can become a debate over whether you can marry your doll.
 

Flavius Sabinus

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Online dating has been a huge negative for average to below average looking men in the last several years from what I've read.

Single men who have had no or very little relationships with women are called "Incels", short for involuntarily celibate.

Of course this lack of opportunity for real relationships can lead to addiction to porn which we all know is widely available.
 

NewWine2020

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I think the same applies to women too. As for the Christians and this includes men and women, maybe because their natural sexual desire can`t be fulfilled because they have no spouse they are turning to unhealthy ways to deal with it.
Sadly, a lot of people get their 1st intro to " how sex is" from online porn looooong before they're old enough to have their 1st kiss.

I'm 52 and not ashamed to admit this is one of my crosses that I must " pick up and follow after Christ" with daily. High speed internet on demand was akin to something out of Star trek back in the 80's but I STILL got exposed to this poison thru my older step brothers and 1st ex stepfather.

I cannot begin to imagine how broken many kuds/ teens are with what they have access to. And having g been single till later in life (married for 1st & only!) Time @ 44 yrs I can confirm that using this poison to "meet a need" is a HORRIBLE idea. You don't just automatically "kick the habit" just because you're married.

I probably sound like a Puritan but I'd be 100% fine with porn being made illegal. It has abseloutly NOTHING of merit to contribute to any society.
 

Dave_97

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Sadly this is all true. The word is called desensitization. Basically we are bombarded by so much sexual images we become num to it. Technology is such a wonderful thing, but man is so fallen that anything we create we use it to bring our own destruction.

This is the area of my life I have to pick up my cross as well. If there was an option to chose to remove all porn from the internet I would. If you think about it, porn is one of the only sin Satan has managed to sneak into our homes which has caused incredible havoc.
 

LindaLove

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For a growing number of men alive these days in our “pornified” society, their sexual desire for real women is being replaced by a desire for images and fantasy. Researcher and Sociologist Dr. Mark Regnerus blames porn for this new development:
Did you see in the news the 14-year-old boy accused of killing a 10-year-old Wisconsin girl Illiana “Lily” Peters. He knew the girl and planned the attack, knocking her down and choking her to death and then sexually assaulted her.

I just wonder if he was exposed to a large amount of porn and video game death/violence that may have contributed to this horrific act he planned out and committed?

I mean we are talking about 2 children, ages 14 and 10! What in the world would cause a 14-year-old boy to plan and act out his sexual desire on a 10-year-old child (after killing her)?

What would create that type of 'fantasy' in his head at that age? I wonder how much the evil of porn and the violence in video games contributed to desensitizing him to how horrifyingly and atrocious his thinking and actions were. I just want it to stop.
 

MapleLeaf

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When you peddle sexy dolls to infants, and drown TV with model people whose body builds are inaccessible to the average person, you are diminishing the confidence of an “average” person. Then start producing lifelike dolls for two or three thousand dollars that look better than your spouse, and the problem can become a debate over whether you can marry your doll.
I think I've sucessfully turned my daughter off the sexy toy dolls. She's learned the word "inappropriate" and points it out all on her own. When she tries on something new she asks me if it's appropriate or not. Her standards are actually a little stricter than my own but I won't talk her down from isomething if it is making her uncomfortable. Sometimes I wonder if my kids will be woefully out-of-touch with no real access to contemporary pop culture but it's just too much out there right now. I know I can't protect them forever. They will be exposed to inappropriate images at some point. My husband said a kid at school introduced him to porn during recess. I can't be with them at every moment even though I am currently homeschooling. Our son is autistic and still can't comprehend the real differences between boys and girls. It's sweetly innocent and I'm glad I'm homeschooling now because he would definitely be a target of the trans ideology. There is grooming going on even in small, rural and conservative-area schools. I've heard too many first-hand stories from our own local school. It's not just the teachers. It's the other kids too. Big time.

Relating with people in person is difficult. Social media seems to be helpful to shy, introverted people but it's also a cop-out. I know I find it easier to be here then to reach out to real people. Romantic relationships require even more vulnerability. It's scary.
 

NewWine2020

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Did you see in the news the 14-year-old boy accused of killing a 10-year-old Wisconsin girl Illiana “Lily” Peters. He knew the girl and planned the attack, knocking her down and choking her to death and then sexually assaulted her.

I just wonder if he was exposed to a large amount of porn and video game death/violence that may have contributed to this horrific act he planned out and committed?

I mean we are talking about 2 children, ages 14 and 10! What in the world would cause a 14-year-old boy to plan and act out his sexual desire on a 10-year-old child (after killing her)?

What would create that type of 'fantasy' in his head at that age? I wonder how much the evil of porn and the violence in video games contributed to desensitizing him to how horrifyingly and atrocious his thinking and actions were. I just want it to stop.

That was so shocking and sad; I'm sure that if his browsing history was examined it would reveal porn but this goes deeper and darker...probably a history of torturing and murdering animals/pets, setting fires, etc.

From the admittedly little I know of the case he sounds like a "Ted Bundy in the making" ...they can't prove it but it's alleged that Bundy actually murdered an 8 yr old girl when he was only around 14 yrs old so this is sadly not without precedent.

Oddly Bundy tried to blame how he turned out on pornography in his last prison interview though I think his pathology could be attributed to a wide host of issues, not ruling out legitimate demonic possession (although that does not in ANY way alleviate his guilt or negate the necessity of him forfeiting his useless life in payment for those many girls/women and families he destroyed.)

I'm glad they caught this kid so quickly and will keep my opinions to myself as to what I think his fate should be because those opinions are not remotely Christ like; he's very fortunate his future is not in my hands as a juror.
 

LoudRam

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As a former porn addict this article doesn't surprise me. I've heard these stats before and I believe they are accurate.

The one thing they didn't address is what they call the law of diminishing returns. While this is used in economics it's also true with addictions. With drugs or alcohol it's obvious but with porn it's just as real. You have to get more perverse to get the same amount of dopamine released or produced to give you the same excitement.

They did a porn study a few years back. I can't remember the exact details but it involved hundreds of men. They were told to surf and look at porn, all they wanted. What was interesting was that no matter what type of porn they started out looking at they all ended up in one of two camps. Either they ended up looking at younger or S & M. That's the law of diminishing returns at work.

If you're struggling with this, please repent of this. It WILL destroy your life and marriage.

Here is a commentary from Albert Barnes on 1 Cor 6:18 about the word Flee. It's so on point. Please take the time to read it.

A solemn command of God - as explicit as any that thundered from Mount Sinai. None can disregard it with impunity - none can violate it without being exposed to the awful vengeance of the Almighty. There is force and emphasis in the word “flee”. Man should escape from it; he should not stay to reason about it; to debate the matter; or even to contend with his propensities, and to try the strength of his virtue. There are some sins which a man can resist; some about which he can reason without danger of pollution. But this is a sin where a man is safe only when he flies; free from pollution only when he refuses to entertain a thought of it; secure when he seeks a victory by flight, and a conquest by retreat. Let a man turn away from it without reflection on it and he is safe. Let him think, and reason, and he may be ruined. “The very passage of an impure thought through the mind leaves pollution behind it.” An argument on the subject often leaves pollution; a description ruins; and even the presentation of motives against it may often fix the mind with dangerous inclination on the crime. There is no way of avoiding the pollution but in the manner prescribed by Paul; there is no man safe who will not follow his direction. How many a young man would be saved from poverty, want, disease, curses, tears, and hell, could these two words be made to blaze before him like the writing before the astonished eyes of Belshazzar Dan. 5, and could they terrify him from even the momentary contemplation of the crime.
 

cheeky200386

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Did you see in the news the 14-year-old boy accused of killing a 10-year-old Wisconsin girl Illiana “Lily” Peters. He knew the girl and planned the attack, knocking her down and choking her to death and then sexually assaulted her.

I just wonder if he was exposed to a large amount of porn and video game death/violence that may have contributed to this horrific act he planned out and committed?

I mean we are talking about 2 children, ages 14 and 10! What in the world would cause a 14-year-old boy to plan and act out his sexual desire on a 10-year-old child (after killing her)?

What would create that type of 'fantasy' in his head at that age? I wonder how much the evil of porn and the violence in video games contributed to desensitizing him to how horrifyingly and atrocious his thinking and actions were. I just want it to stop.
Yes, they were cousins and his father is a Pedophile.
 

cheeky200386

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I think I've sucessfully turned my daughter off the sexy toy dolls. She's learned the word "inappropriate" and points it out all on her own. When she tries on something new she asks me if it's appropriate or not. Her standards are actually a little stricter than my own but I won't talk her down from isomething if it is making her uncomfortable. Sometimes I wonder if my kids will be woefully out-of-touch with no real access to contemporary pop culture but it's just too much out there right now. I know I can't protect them forever. They will be exposed to inappropriate images at some point. My husband said a kid at school introduced him to porn during recess. I can't be with them at every moment even though I am currently homeschooling. Our son is autistic and still can't comprehend the real differences between boys and girls. It's sweetly innocent and I'm glad I'm homeschooling now because he would definitely be a target of the trans ideology. There is grooming going on even in small, rural and conservative-area schools. I've heard too many first-hand stories from our own local school. It's not just the teachers. It's the other kids too. Big time.

Relating with people in person is difficult. Social media seems to be helpful to shy, introverted people but it's also a cop-out. I know I find it easier to be here then to reach out to real people. Romantic relationships require even more vulnerability. It's scary.
I struggle with the same battles. I want to protect my son from all of the filth especially the sexually perverse culture. I feel overwhelmed like it's an uphill battle.

Like you said, it only takes one quick moment from another child to expose them to porn. It happened to me when I was 12 and another girl showed me her dads porn mags during a sleepover. I immediately called my mom and she picked me up. It freaked me out. Sadly then I discovered my dad's porn tapes at home and it started me down on a long road of porn addiction.

I don't know what could have been done differently apart from not having your own porn addiction as a parent. Now the internet is way more accessible and you can see porn even by complete accident. The other day I was searching for something online and the link I clicked showed up a spam pop up with porn images. I was furious. What if that had been my son looking for something for school?!?!

It just looks like the the only safe approach is no computer or internet access at all, no media without my screening, etc. Yet will he be unprepared to face the world as an adult and instead find all the perverse alluring? That is my fear.
 

Bohdan

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All pre-internet attitudes about porn, from traditional opposition to totally in favor, were based on two assumptions:
That it would be moderately expensive and that an aficionado would have to go out and buy it.

No one considered it would be easy to obtain for free without leaving your chair.

Perhaps the closest historical parallel would be the pornographic murals in the ruins of Pompeii.
 

alisani

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I credit most of my written stories to hours and hours playing with Barbie dolls and Fisher-Price little people, creating their personalities and living out scenes.
Creative play has been shown to be very beneficial for resilience and emotional regulation in children. Just one of many innocent pleasures we lose in adulthood. I had so much fun playing with my kids and seeing them discover and create.
 

LoudRam

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Creative play has been shown to be very beneficial for resilience and emotional regulation in children. Just one of many innocent pleasures we lose in adulthood. I had so much fun playing with my kids and seeing them discover and create.
It's all video games now. When I was growing up we were playing outside with our Hotwheels making roads in the dirt. Good times then.
 
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