Very few families are able to care for a loved one with dementia. It can be done for the first few years, but in the advanced stages, most will need to be placed in a memory care facility. Family Caregivers usually break long before end stage dementia. Older spouses who try and care for the one with dementia, often times die first from the 24/7 stress of caregiving.Mom was home until we could no longer take care of her safely. She had dementia and had gotten violent. and needed constant supervision so she wouldn't fall or do "stupid" or dangerous stuff. There are just some things that I wouldn't do to my Mom that were reasonable to do to a resisting, combative felony suspect.
Besides a couple of hospitals, Mom ended up in three excellent facilities (one regular nursing home and two memory care nursing home), where she got great care