How does one overcome insecurity, especially with the opposite sex? I am always told to be confident by 'wise' men and women, yet it doesn't do anything. How do you not become bitter? It is only by the grace of God that I have not sided with the incel, redpill or MGTOW movements. I have too many women friends yet, at the same time that's all that I am. While liking myself I wonder if God has just played a cruel joke on me by making me less, both temperamentally and physically than what even many church goers, let alone the world want me to be.