I have a question. Why when you are in a relationship or married is it so, so bad to look at someone of the opposite sex? This is an honest question for both the men and women. I am not talking about gawking or staring at someone from the opposite sex, just taking a casual look at them. I am not saying it is right or wrong because I don't know. Do I look at women at times? Yes and my wife gets very mad at me. Do I lust at them? I don't plan to, but I suppose sometimes I do depending on what they are wearing. You may say, of course it's wrong and you don't blame my wife. Well you are probably right, but listen to my point of view. We have beauty contests where the only real point is to look at the contestants and their beauty. I have no plans to do anything but look (not stare), meaning no speaking to them or trying to get to know them. I don't go anywhere with the object of looking at women, I just happen to see them in the store mostly. I am being honest here and really most men I know also look at women whether they admit it or not. One reason I don't understand why it is such a big deal is because I don't care in the least who my wife looks at as long as it is just looking. In fact, I may bring to her attention some man I think she would find interesting to look at. Another thing I don't get is that it seems to be OK to look at women on TV, just not in person. I am just curious as to others opinions. Feel free to tell me how wrong my thinking is.