I struggle with SSA, how can I grow closer to God?

Neonap

Well-Known Member
Hello brothers in Christ, may God bless each and every one of you. I struggle with Same Sex attraction, it's a sin that has recently sprung up in my life which I do not wish to go into detail. The attraction to the opposite sex is there but very small compared to my SSA. Posting this wasn't easy but I honestly need your prayers. I have decided to remain single for the rest of my life.

I remember from a very young age how I dreamed of marrying a woman, to love her and be loved in return for the rest of our days. But that dream was crushed and it honestly isn't easy to deal with at times. But now I just want to be close to Jesus, and I am willing to live the rest of my life single for Him. How can I grow closer to God?

Dealing with this sin is hard, to the point where I have considered suicide or wished to die. I have fallen away from God mutiple times, giving into my sins like masturbatin, lustful thoughts, porn, drinking alcohol, etc etc. I haved failed time and time again, and I just don't want to break God's heart anymore. Regardless of the sins that we may struggle with, God is merciful and will welcome you back with open arms. We have to remember that this world is not our home.

I firmly believe Jesus is coming soon, but regardless if He comes in our lifetimes or not, let us continue to carry our crosses to the finish line and spread the Gospel to a lost and dying world.

But Jesus beheld them, and said unto them, With men this is impossible; but with God all things are possible.

Matthew 19:26
 

Spartan Sprinter 1

Formerly known as Shaun
Don't be too hard on yourself brother, being single can also be a blessing too

I too have decided to remain single , the reason for this is because of my personal opinion of how close i think we are to the end , i'm also hesitant to bring a child into the world with the amount of sin or moreso the level of how bad sin is during the times we live in.
 

Neonap

Well-Known Member
Don't be too hard on yourself brother, being single can also be a blessing too

I too have decided to remain single , the reason for this is because of my personal opinion of how close i think we are to the end , i'm also hesitant to bring a child into the world with the amount of sin or moreso the level of how bad sin is during the times we live in.

We truly are drawing nearer, I could be wrong and I am not trying to set a date but I don't see us being here for another 50 years. We do not know the day nor hour but we clearly see that day approaching. May God help us in our walk with Him and give us the strength to walk the path of singleness.
 

Spartan Sprinter 1

Formerly known as Shaun
We truly are drawing nearer, I could be wrong and I am not trying to set a date but I don't see us being here for another 50 years. We do not know the day nor hour but we clearly see that day approaching. May God help us in our walk with Him and give us the strength to walk the path of singleness.
I agree, we can know the seasons and signs but won't date set.

LOL the only thing i can say that being in later half of 30, the temptations of the single life isn't aren't as strong so i thank God for that at least.
 

3 Nails 4 Given

Sinner saved by the blood of Jesus
Brothers keep your dreams don’t give up on them because of this world. God is more than able to protect the children that are his.

I am on my second marriage. The first one was my mistake, for ignoring all the red flags. My oldest daughter by my ex wife has become a atheist and disowned me.

My wife I’m married to now we have been married 26 years. We’re both Christians and we both worried 24 years ago about bringing children into this world. My wife said, Why worry, the children belong to God.

We have two beautiful grown Christian children. My second daughter, with my current wife graduated college last year with the highest honors possible. She is teaching first grade now.

My youngest, my son is 21, he graduates with a Bachelors in Bio Medical Science in May. He is going to medical school, upon encouragement from his professors.

My wife is a beautiful Christian woman, who is just as beautiful to me as the day we married. My son is engaged to a beautiful Christian girl, who has a Master’s in education.

If we’re still here in a couple of years I expect to have some grandchildren. They belong to God, I do not worry about this world, it is not our home.
 

Neonap

Well-Known Member
Brothers keep your dreams don’t give up on them because of this world. God is more than able to protect the children that are his.

I am on my second marriage. The first one was my mistake, for ignoring all the red flags. My oldest daughter by my ex wife has become a atheist and disowned me.

My wife I’m married to now we have been married 26 years. We’re both Christians and we both worried 24 years ago about bringing children into this world. My wife said, Why worry, the children belong to God.

We have two beautiful grown Christian children. My second daughter, with my current wife graduated college last year with the highest honors possible. She is teaching first grade now.

My youngest, my son is 21, he graduates with a Bachelors in Bio Medical Science in May. He is going to medical school, upon encouragement from his professors.

My wife is a beautiful Christian woman, who is just as beautiful to me as the day we married. My son is engaged to a beautiful Christian girl, who has a Master’s in education.

If we’re still here in a couple of years I expect to have some grandchildren. They belong to God, I do not worry about this world, it is not our home.

Believe me, that dream of finding a Christian wife who I can spend my entire life with and serve the Lord together is still alive in my heart but with this rather recent SSA springing up on me I just don't feel it's correct to marry someone I cannot love.... I know that with God all things are possible but maybe being single for Jesus is my calling? It truly hurts but as long as I have Jesus then I will be happy.
 

3 Nails 4 Given

Sinner saved by the blood of Jesus
“No temptation has overtaken you except such as is common to man; but God is faithful, who will not allow you to be tempted beyond what you are able, but with the temptation will also make the way of escape, that you may be able to bear it.”
‭‭I Corinthians‬ ‭10:13‬ ‭NKJV‬‬
https://bible.com/bible/114/1co.10.13.NKJV

Neonap, have faith, find a support group, you are not the only person who has struggled with this. You stay in the Word and God will quench those fiery darts of temptation. When you fail ask for forgiveness and move on.

When satan reminds you of your past, remind him of his future. Having accepted Christ you are already a victor!
 

mattfivefour

Well-Known Member
@Neonap-- First of all, young brother, I want to commend you on your decision to remain celibate in the face of the SSA that is attracting you. That is not an easy decision to make; but it is the right one. To be tempted by SSA is not a sin; to act on SSA would be. So, you have made the correct choice and I will pray that you are able to stand by that decision. Regardless of how you feel at this moment, you will likely find yourself in times of struggle going forward. Don't despair should that occur. Satan and the world are very good at leading us into temptation. And, to be honest, so is our own flesh. But know this: nobody here—indeed no true Christian brother or sister—will ever condemn you for your temptations or your weaknesses. And neither will God. He understands us better than we do. And the truth is that when we sin, the remedy is simply to take it before God, confessing it: which simply means whole-heartedly telling God you agree with His view that what you did IS a sin, that it is wrong because it is an affront to God's perfection, against His will, and harmful to yourself and others (should anyone else be involved.) And then admit your inability to conquer the sin in your own strength ,and then re-affirm your faith in the fact that Christ has already won the victory over your sin and has implanted that victory in you. Then ask God to make that victory real in your life.

You catalogued a number of sins that you have fallen prey to. Please know that with all of the men whom I have counseled in the past and whom I am counseling now, that list of sins is fairly common. Many men struggle—or have struggled—with some of those same things as you. Some struggle with some other sins. The truth is that all of us have different temptations, but none of us is odd. None of us has any temptation that countless others have not also faced. That's the plain message of 1 Corinthians 10:13. But remember that that verse not only says that whatever we may face is common to all humankind but that God will not permit us to be tempted beyond hope, but will make a way out of every temptation. Does that mean we will always take that way of escape? Oh, would that it were so! But since even a momentary thought—if engaged in or entertained—is as bad in God's eyes as the act, we all need the continuing cleansing of the blood of Christ to maintain our fellowship with God. Notice it is our fellowship, our communication, that suffers when we sin, not our relationship with God. From the moment we accepted Christ's sacrifice for our sins and were born again, we became God's children. And as long as our faith is in Jesus Christ and Him crucified, nothing anywhere can change that relationship: He is our Father and we are His children. Forever.

Don't be discouraged by how vile any particular sin may be, or how powerfully it may seem to have a hold on you. It cannot alter your relationship to God. The apostle Paul himself spoke in depth of the struggle with sin in our flesh. Saved though he was, he was driven to cry out from his soul: "O wretched man that I am! Who will deliver me out of this body of death?" And he gave the answer ... the one answer: "Jesus Christ!" And then in Romans 8:1 he explains that because of what Jesus did at Calvary, "There is therefore no condemnation to those who are in Christ." Wow! NO condemnation. The word he used in the Greek is a word meaning "the punishment given a guilty person after due process of law." There is "therefore NO punishment for us?" How can that be, if we commit the sins that the unsaved commit? It is solely because Jesus bore the totality of that punishment for us! I am awed by that realization. In fact I am stunned by it. And only then do I begin to realize how much God loves us ... not merely collectively, but individually. Wow! And by faith in Jesus Christ and His sacrifice for me, my sin debt is forever paid. As Romans 8:2 tells us, because we walk according to the law of the Spirit of life in Christ Jesus we are now free from the law of sin and death. In other words, in Christ we have eternal life; while the world lives according to an unpaid sin debt, a law that says the soul that sins shall die (Ezekiel 18:20).

In the face of this astounding fact, that we are free from the penalty of sin, does this mean it doesn't matter how much we sin? Does it mean we can just go on sinning and not worry about it? As Paul said, "God forbid! How shall we who died to sin still live in it?" At the moment of salvation, when the Holy Spirit entered in to save and seal us, He gave us a new life. We died to the old nature and were raised to a new life that has an entirely new nature: the nature of God Himself. So, how can we continue to willfully sin just as we did before when we were controlled by our old nature? The fact is that if we are truly saved we cannot. This does not mean we can no longer sin. (There are some Christians who believe that they are now wholly sanctified and cannot sin: they are sadly mistaken,) No, we can still sin, but we cannot be happy in it. No matter how many times we may fail and fall, we struggle in an effort to become holy so that we will not sin. We strive for the victory. We may give up from time to time, but we never completely quit. We always return to that struggle. But the answer is not to promise God we won't sin any more. That's a foolish promise because it is one that in our own abilities we cannot keep.

Prayer, praise and Bible reading are all good things; but they do not produce the victory in your life. That comes from Christ alone; and it has already been won. The issue is it being realized in your own life. And that is the product of Christ becoming more and more dominant in you, not of you becoming stronger and stronger. Jesus Christ HAS already won the victory for you and as you draw closer to Him, bit by bit, through prayer and the study of His precious Word, the Holy Spirit WILL produce the fruit of that victory in your life. Remember, the branches of a fruit tree do not summon up fruit by themselves. It is as they remain firmly attached to the tree that the sap of the tree itself produces the fruit on them. The branches cannot help but bear fruit because that is the nature of the tree they are attached to! Believing this—and acting upon it every time you are tempted and every time that you may fail—is what is meant by walking by faith. That is the truth of the Cross of Christ, or as some put it: the Message of the Cross. Just as we are saved by faith that Jesus Christ's death saves us, we are sanctified by faith that His death sanctifies us. Because it does. Just as God informs us in Ephesians 2:8 that we have been saved through faith, He tells us in 2 Corinthians 5:7 that we walk by faith ... "walk" meaning the way we live our new life in Christ. As God says in 2 Peter 1:3-- "His divine power has given us everything we need for life and godliness through the knowledge of Him who called us by His own glory and excellence."

So, brother, stand strong in faith in Jesus Christ and what He has fully and finally accomplished for you. Trust in God that He WILL produce that victory in your life. Your part is to seek to draw close to Him so that you consciously and intentionally walk with Him daily. We do that through reading and meditating upon His Word; through trying to be obedient to the things he shows us; and through seeking to live our lives in praise! Don't allow Satan to discourage you by your failures. Focus on the instruction of Proverbs 3:5 and 6--

"Trust in the Lord with ALL your heart and lean not on your own understanding." This means trust that what God has told us is absolutely true. Lean on it; remain fixed on it. And don't trust in your own thinking and consideration of matters.​
"In all your ways acknowledge Him." The idea of the Hebrew is to perceive Him in everything in your life and be willing to accept His Way and His Word rather than your own.​
"And He shall direct your paths." The Hebrew actually means that He will make your path straight and smooth.​

Brother, know that all of the power of God is arrayed and committed to bring you to victory. He that has begun this good work (sanctification) in you will continue it until He comes for you. And the end result is guaranteed. Nothing, anywhere or by any means, can separate you from God's love which you have in Christ. No power on earth or in Hell; no demon—even the Prince of demons himself—can prevent your victory being realized. Rest in that certain knowledge which God gave you in His Word for such a time as this. May He bless you with an understanding of His incredible provision for you. Know that your brothers and sisters here are right there beside you in this. You are loved, brother.

I pray this helps.
 

Neonap

Well-Known Member
@Neonap-- First of all, young brother, I want to commend you on your decision to remain celibate in the face of the SSA that is attracting you. That is not an easy decision to make; but it is the right one. To be tempted by SSA is not a sin; to act on SSA would be. So, you have made the correct choice and I will pray that you are able to stand by that decision. Regardless of how you feel at this moment, you will likely find yourself in times of struggle going forward. Don't despair should that occur. Satan and the world are very good at leading us into temptation. And, to be honest, so is our own flesh. But know this: nobody here—indeed no true Christian brother or sister—will ever condemn you for your temptations or your weaknesses. And neither will God. He understands us better than we do. And the truth is that when we sin, the remedy is simply to take it before God, confessing it: which simply means whole-heartedly telling God you agree with His view that what you did IS a sin, that it is wrong because it is an affront to God's perfection, against His will, and harmful to yourself and others (should anyone else be involved.) And then admit your inability to conquer the sin in your own strength ,and then re-affirm your faith in the fact that Christ has already won the victory over your sin and has implanted that victory in you. Then ask God to make that victory real in your life.

You catalogued a number of sins that you have fallen prey to. Please know that with all of the men whom I have counseled in the past and whom I am counseling now, that list of sins is fairly common. Many men struggle—or have struggled—with some of those same things as you. Some struggle with some other sins. The truth is that all of us have different temptations, but none of us is odd. None of us has any temptation that countless others have not also faced. That's the plain message of 1 Corinthians 10:13. But remember that that verse not only says that whatever we may face is common to all humankind but that God will not permit us to be tempted beyond hope, but will make a way out of every temptation. Does that mean we will always take that way of escape? Oh, would that it were so! But since even a momentary thought—if engaged in or entertained—is as bad in God's eyes as the act, we all need the continuing cleansing of the blood of Christ to maintain our fellowship with God. Notice it is our fellowship, our communication, that suffers when we sin, not our relationship with God. From the moment we accepted Christ's sacrifice for our sins and were born again, we became God's children. And as long as our faith is in Jesus Christ and Him crucified, nothing anywhere can change that relationship: He is our Father and we are His children. Forever.

Don't be discouraged by how vile any particular sin may be, or how powerfully it may seem to have a hold on you. It cannot alter your relationship to God. The apostle Paul himself spoke in depth of the struggle with sin in our flesh. Saved though he was, he was driven to cry out from his soul: "O wretched man that I am! Who will deliver me out of this body of death?" And he gave the answer ... the one answer: "Jesus Christ!" And then in Romans 8:1 he explains that because of what Jesus did at Calvary, "There is therefore no condemnation to those who are in Christ." Wow! NO condemnation. The word he used in the Greek is a word meaning "the punishment given a guilty person after due process of law." There is "therefore NO punishment for us?" How can that be, if we commit the sins that the unsaved commit? It is solely because Jesus bore the totality of that punishment for us! I am awed by that realization. In fact I am stunned by it. And only then do I begin to realize how much God loves us ... not merely collectively, but individually. Wow! And by faith in Jesus Christ and His sacrifice for me, my sin debt is forever paid. As Romans 8:2 tells us, because we walk according to the law of the Spirit of life in Christ Jesus we are now free from the law of sin and death. In other words, in Christ we have eternal life; while the world lives according to an unpaid sin debt, a law that says the soul that sins shall die (Ezekiel 18:20).

In the face of this astounding fact, that we are free from the penalty of sin, does this mean it doesn't matter how much we sin? Does it mean we can just go on sinning and not worry about it? As Paul said, "God forbid! How shall we who died to sin still live in it?" At the moment of salvation, when the Holy Spirit entered in to save and seal us, He gave us a new life. We died to the old nature and were raised to a new life that has an entirely new nature: the nature of God Himself. So, how can we continue to willfully sin just as we did before when we were controlled by our old nature? The fact is that if we are truly saved we cannot. This does not mean we can no longer sin. (There are some Christians who believe that they are now wholly sanctified and cannot sin: they are sadly mistaken,) No, we can still sin, but we cannot be happy in it. No matter how many times we may fail and fall, we struggle in an effort to become holy so that we will not sin. We strive for the victory. We may give up from time to time, but we never completely quit. We always return to that struggle. But the answer is not to promise God we won't sin any more. That's a foolish promise because it is one that in our own abilities we cannot keep.

Prayer, praise and Bible reading are all good things; but they do not produce the victory in your life. That comes from Christ alone; and it has already been won. The issue is it being realized in your own life. And that is the product of Christ becoming more and more dominant in you, not of you becoming stronger and stronger. Jesus Christ HAS already won the victory for you and as you draw closer to Him, bit by bit, through prayer and the study of His precious Word, the Holy Spirit WILL produce the fruit of that victory in your life. Remember, the branches of a fruit tree do not summon up fruit by themselves. It is as they remain firmly attached to the tree that the sap of the tree itself produces the fruit on them. The branches cannot help but bear fruit because that is the nature of the tree they are attached to! Believing this—and acting upon it every time you are tempted and every time that you may fail—is what is meant by walking by faith. That is the truth of the Cross of Christ, or as some put it: the Message of the Cross. Just as we are saved by faith that Jesus Christ's death saves us, we are sanctified by faith that His death sanctifies us. Because it does. Just as God informs us in Ephesians 2:8 that we have been saved through faith, He tells us in 2 Corinthians 5:7 that we walk by faith ... "walk" meaning the way we live our new life in Christ. As God says in 2 Peter 1:3-- "His divine power has given us everything we need for life and godliness through the knowledge of Him who called us by His own glory and excellence."

So, brother, stand strong in faith in Jesus Christ and what He has fully and finally accomplished for you. Trust in God that He WILL produce that victory in your life. Your part is to seek to draw close to Him so that you consciously and intentionally walk with Him daily. We do that through reading and meditating upon His Word; through trying to be obedient to the things he shows us; and through seeking to live our lives in praise! Don't allow Satan to discourage you by your failures. Focus on the instruction of Proverbs 3:5 and 6--

"Trust in the Lord with ALL your heart and lean not on your own understanding." This means trust that what God has told us is absolutely true. Lean on it; remain fixed on it. And don't trust in your own thinking and consideration of matters.​
"In all your ways acknowledge Him." The idea of the Hebrew is to perceive Him in everything in your life and be willing to accept His Way and His Word rather than your own.​
"And He shall direct your paths." The Hebrew actually means that He will make your path straight and smooth.​

Brother, know that all of the power of God is arrayed and committed to bring you to victory. He that has begun this good work (sanctification) in you will continue it until He comes for you. And the end result is guaranteed. Nothing, anywhere or by any means, can separate you from God's love which you have in Christ. No power on earth or in Hell; no demon—even the Prince of demons himself—can prevent your victory being realized. Rest in that certain knowledge which God gave you in His Word for such a time as this. May He bless you with an understanding of His incredible provision for you. Know that your brothers and sisters here are right there beside you in this. You are loved, brother.

I pray this helps.

Thank you and everyone for your prayers and great advice. We as Christians will never be sinless, only Jesus is but God will help us live a holy life and transform us little by little. I am honestly excited to meet Jesus whether it by rapture if it occurs in my lifetime or through death, this world isn't our home.

It's not a easy walk but with God all things are possible and I am so glad that I joined this forum back in 2018. I love you all and let's continue to not only watch for His return but fulfill the Great Commission as well. Jesus is coming soon and God bless each and every one of you. :)
 

Jonathan

Well-Known Member
I agree, we can know the seasons and signs but won't date set.

LOL the only thing i can say that being in later half of 30, the temptations of the single life isn't aren't as strong so i thank God for that at least.
I gave this a 100%, but it was more due to sadness than happiness. I'm mid 40s, and yea, it really is true: It is about this time when your body starts to slowly attrit, including sex drive. However, for me, as a single man, I consider it a blessing (at least in terms of sex drive... the rest isn't cool).
 

alisani

Well-Known Member
It's ok sis, if fellow sisters want to comment they can. :) God bless you
This fellow sister is going to comment. So many here have addressed this from a truly spiritual mature place, especially Adrian. So my comment is just to remind you of the vastness of God's love. Struggling with any sin, it can become way too easy to feel unworthy of God's love and blessings. So, if those thoughts come, if you begin to think you need to hide out somewhere in a cave, forsaking fellowship with your brothers and sisters, please remember that your light shines no dimmer and your salt loses no flavor. We, your brothers and sisters, are in need of every good gift that God has graced you with.

Lamentations 3:21-23
"Yet this I call to mind and therefore I have hope: because of the Lord's great love, we are not consumed, for His compassions never fail. They are new every morning; great is Your faithfulness."

Psalm 51: 7-17
"Cleanse me with hyssop and I will be clean; wash me and I will be whiter than snow. Let me hear joy and gladness...create in me a pure heart, O God, and renew a steadfast spirit in me...restore to me the joy of my salvation and grant me a willing spirit to sustain me...You do not delight in sacrifice, or I would bring it; you do not take pleasure in burnt offerings. The sacrifices of God are a broken spirit; a broken and contrite heart, O God, you will not despise."

We are all broken, but not all are contrite. And fewer still have the courage to bring their struggles to their fellow Christians. Remember how you appear to your Father, having been made clean by the blood of Jesus. You appear cleansed and whiter than snow. And that is also how you appear to me. Much love to you brother. You are in my heart.
 

Neonap

Well-Known Member
This fellow sister is going to comment. So many here have addressed this from a truly spiritual mature place, especially Adrian. So my comment is just to remind you of the vastness of God's love. Struggling with any sin, it can become way too easy to feel unworthy of God's love and blessings. So, if those thoughts come, if you begin to think you need to hide out somewhere in a cave, forsaking fellowship with your brothers and sisters, please remember that your light shines no dimmer and your salt loses no flavor. We, your brothers and sisters, are in need of every good gift that God has graced you with.

Lamentations 3:21-23
"Yet this I call to mind and therefore I have hope: because of the Lord's great love, we are not consumed, for His compassions never fail. They are new every morning; great is Your faithfulness."

Psalm 51: 7-17
"Cleanse me with hyssop and I will be clean; wash me and I will be whiter than snow. Let me hear joy and gladness...create in me a pure heart, O God, and renew a steadfast spirit in me...restore to me the joy of my salvation and grant me a willing spirit to sustain me...You do not delight in sacrifice, or I would bring it; you do not take pleasure in burnt offerings. The sacrifices of God are a broken spirit; a broken and contrite heart, O God, you will not despise."

We are all broken, but not all are contrite. And fewer still have the courage to bring their struggles to their fellow Christians. Remember how you appear to your Father, having been made clean by the blood of Jesus. You appear cleansed and whiter than snow. And that is also how you appear to me. Much love to you brother. You are in my heart.

Whenever I fall into sin, I immediately stop reading God's Word, stop praying, and drop fellowship. I recently had actually attended a church which is very close to me this previous Sunday but I generally forsake fellowship as well. I just don't want to feel like a hypocrite who's playing church on Sunday and just lives like there's no tomorrow.

The Christian walk is not easy, for we must pick up our crosses, deny ourselves, and crucify our old selves. This is not possible with man alone but only Jesus can break the chains that hold us all captive. I would rather be alone than knowingly and willfully be in a relationship that is totally against what God wants. Though I fall into other sins that I have described before.

I do believe in Grace but I do not believe in abusing God's sweet Grace. I'm not saying that we aren't saved by grace through faith alone, but there are many who claim to be christian but act like the world, talk like the world, and live like the world without any evidence of a heart change.

I have a question for you and my fellow brothers and sisters, is it possible for God to take away this confusion that lies within my heart? I truly do want to get married with a woman that I can call my own. Thank you for your kind words sister. You and everyone on here is precious to me and that's why I remain on this forum.
 

alisani

Well-Known Member
Whenever I fall into sin, I immediately stop reading God's Word, stop praying, and drop fellowship. I recently had actually attended a church which is very close to me this previous Sunday but I generally forsake fellowship as well. I just don't want to feel like a hypocrite who's playing church on Sunday and just lives like there's no tomorrow.

The Christian walk is not easy, for we must pick up our crosses, deny ourselves, and crucify our old selves. This is not possible with man alone but only Jesus can break the chains that hold us all captive. I would rather be alone than knowingly and willfully be in a relationship that is totally against what God wants. Though I fall into other sins that I have described before.

I do believe in Grace but I do not believe in abusing God's sweet Grace. I'm not saying that we aren't saved by grace through faith alone, but there are many who claim to be christian but act like the world, talk like the world, and live like the world without any evidence of a heart change.

I have a question for you and my fellow brothers and sisters, is it possible for God to take away this confusion that lies within my heart? I truly do want to get married with a woman that I can call my own. Thank you for your kind words sister. You and everyone on here is precious to me and that's why I remain on this forum.
I had a feeling. I struggled with a sense of being unworthy of God's love for too many years of my life. And you are right, we never want to abuse the gift of grace. But nor should we run from it. Both can be equally damaging. Don't do what I did and deny yourself that comfort. And if you drop from this forum, I WILL come hunt you down. :bighug
As to your question about God's work in you, emphatically yes. God is a God of peace. Where there is confusion and doubt, His desire is always to bring you out of it. We serve a God that can and will and does work for our good. Perfection will come on the other side of eternity. For now just run your race and make sure you're not running it alone. I'm too old to run, get TT for that. But I have a cool scooter, I'll keep up.
 

LoudRam

Well-Known Member
Hello brothers in Christ, may God bless each and every one of you. I struggle with Same Sex attraction, it's a sin that has recently sprung up in my life which I do not wish to go into detail. The attraction to the opposite sex is there but very small compared to my SSA. Posting this wasn't easy but I honestly need your prayers. I have decided to remain single for the rest of my life.

I remember from a very young age how I dreamed of marrying a woman, to love her and be loved in return for the rest of our days. But that dream was crushed and it honestly isn't easy to deal with at times. But now I just want to be close to Jesus, and I am willing to live the rest of my life single for Him. How can I grow closer to God?

Dealing with this sin is hard, to the point where I have considered suicide or wished to die. I have fallen away from God mutiple times, giving into my sins like masturbatin, lustful thoughts, porn, drinking alcohol, etc etc. I haved failed time and time again, and I just don't want to break God's heart anymore. Regardless of the sins that we may struggle with, God is merciful and will welcome you back with open arms. We have to remember that this world is not our home.

I firmly believe Jesus is coming soon, but regardless if He comes in our lifetimes or not, let us continue to carry our crosses to the finish line and spread the Gospel to a lost and dying world.

But Jesus beheld them, and said unto them, With men this is impossible; but with God all things are possible.

Matthew 19:26
I wish these PM's would work. I'm in the same state so I could be close to you. I would love to meet and pray with you face to face. There has been so much great advice given in this thread. Prayerfully read and reread it. I'll be praying for you brother. I'm not hard to find if you try.
 
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