Husbands in Difficult Marriages II

Eric Nicholas

Well-Known Member
Well, I figured that'd I'd piggyback off some threads of the same title, save the numeral. I also see a more personal nature in these dedicated gender/sex threads, so I may be more personal than usual.

I've talked about this in the prayer thread, but I'd like to get some perspective here in a dedicated section. So, I've been married for about seven years now. I don't have any children of my own, as my stepchildren keep me busy enough. I'm truly privileged and blessed to know them, especially Rebecca. Anywho, that's not what I'm here to talk about, just some backdrop for the conversation.

I just turned 34 years of age, twelve days ago. My wife is creeping up on 40 soon enough. My wife absolutely rejects that I love her completely and thinks that I do not find her attractive in any sense. Almost every day she asks me why that I am with her and no matter what I tell her and it's the same every time, she just won't have it. She also insists that she doesn't want to leave, because I gave her an out if she truly wanted it and she didn't take it. I wasn't going to cause a fight or anything like that.

We haven't been intimate in over two years in any regard whatsoever. We are in separate rooms. She doesn't like me going absolutely anywhere, not even to the store. She doesn't like me going to family gatherings, but to be honest, a couple of my brother's girlfriends made a pass at me and that didn't help matters at all.

The thing is, we still talk and laugh a lot, but this nagging topic keeps coming up. I've been very attentive to her and I've fought for her against other people. I don't want to be simplistic, but do I boil this down to middle aged hormones or what? Is it our age difference? Is she probably not into me? Are any of you currently going through something similar? I don't want to leave, but I'd be lying if I said that I do not want more than this.

I don't really have anyone that I can talk about this with. I have no pastor and I've forsaken any "friendships" that I've had in person, because frankly, they were hollow and that's being extraordinarily kind. But you all are my family, so you're just going to have to deal with it or ignore me, your choice. :biggrin2
 
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Spartan Sprinter 1

Formerly known as Shaun
Brother i'm thinking it might be a possibility that your wife is having slight insecurity issues in relation to her age (It definitely didn't help that your brothers missus made a pass at you as that probably inflammed things to the next level).

As hard as it as ,You're doing the right thing by sticking by her, keep praying about it and if you can take her out a bit more.

Nothin like a date to bring back memory lane of how good things were when you first met
 

Goodboy

Won't Be Long Now!
Well, I figured that'd I'd piggyback off some threads of the same title, save the numeral. I also see a more personal nature in these dedicated gender/sex threads, so I may be more personal than usual.

I've talked about this in the prayer thread, but I'd like to get some perspective here in a dedicated section. So, I've been married for about seven years now. I don't have any children of my own, as my stepchildren keep me busy enough. I'm truly privileged and blessed to know them, especially Rebecca. Anywho, that's not what I'm here to talk about, just some backdrop for the conversation.

I just turned 34 years of age, twelve days ago. My wife is creeping up on 40 soon enough. My wife absolutely rejects that I love her completely and thinks that I do not find her attractive in any sense. Almost every day she asks me why that I am with her and no matter what I tell her and it's the same every time, she just won't have it. She also insists that she doesn't want to leave, because I gave her an out if she truly wanted it and she didn't take it. I wasn't going to cause a fight or anything like that.

We haven't been intimate in over two years in any regard whatsoever. We are in separate rooms. She doesn't like me going absolutely anywhere, not even to the store. She doesn't like me going to family gatherings, but to be honest, a couple of my brother's girlfriends made a pass at me and that didn't help matters at all.

The thing is, we still talk and laugh a lot, but this nagging topic keeps coming up. I've been very attentive to her and I've fought for her against other people. I don't want to be simplistic, but do I boil this down to middle aged hormones or what? Is it our age difference? Is she probably not into me? Are any of you currently going through something similar? I don't want to leave, but I'd be lying if I said that I do not want more than this.

I don't really have anyone that I can talk about this with. I have no pastor and I've forsaken any "friendships" that I've had in person, because frankly, they were hollow and that's being extraordinarily kind. But you all are my family, so you're just going to have to deal with it or ignore me, your choice. :biggrin2
As I think you know, I am in basically the same situation. The only difference is that my wife doesn't care what I do (which is not much) as we are basically living as roommates. For me there seems to be no answer at this point except for prayer.

Three things I have done that I believe have contributed to the problems with my marriage. The first and worst thing I did unintentionally, was to exalt my wife to a point where she became an idol above God. Yes we should love our wives and put them above ourselves, but not above God. The second and almost as bad, was not to lead her spiritually. I should have been having bible studies and prayer time with my wife. The third is not being a strong leader as a husband. My idea of love was letting my wife lead, thinking that would make her happy. Most women while they think they will be happy leading the marriage really are not. That is one of the reasons some women cheat on their husbands.

So there are at least three things that I believe have caused my wife to go astray in her thinking, which were my fault. Her and I disagree on almost everything now. We don't agree on good Pastor teachers, on politics or most anything. Why, because I have not led her. I certainly could be wrong, but I believe for a marriage to last there has to be a strong desire for something that you both agree on. For a Christian marriage, the best desire you should both have is a love for God and people. I believe having a strong desire for the same thing can keep even a non believers marriage together though. When the marriage is new, the strong desire is for each other which will work for a while, but over time there needs to be a similar strong desire for something else.

In my wife's case my lack of leadership especially regarding the Christian walk, has led to her having a strong desire for different things than me. I think because her strong desires are unfulfilled, she is unhappy. This to me is what happens to most marriages that go bad. Either the wife or husband's strong desires are not being met. When this happens we look for someone to blame, which is usually our spouse or ourselves. It is obvious that blaming our spouse is a problem, but blaming ourselves can be just as bad a problem as we become depressed and don't know how to fix it.

I know, I know I have preached a sermon rather than just giving you advice. Well not knowing your exact problem which you yourself probably are not sure of either, it is hard to give you advice. So I will pose some questions for you to ponder that hopefully resonate with you.

Have you been and are you putting your wife above God? :nono
Have you been and are you holding bible studies and praying with your wife? :thumbup
Have you been and are you the head of your household and leader? :thumbup

These are just some general problems your marriage could be having, but these are just things that pertain to you, of course you could be doing everything right and your wife could be the problem, but I can only give you advice. This advice is just based on my experience with my marriage and may not at all pertain to you. If it does not, maybe someone reading this post will get something out of it. :)

If all else fails, the rapture is right around the corner. God helped me by basically telling me to "Stop focusing on myself (my problems and wants) and focus on his will, as time is short". That is what has allowed me to endure my situation for the last 2 years.

God Bless! :hug
Goodboy
 

Eric Nicholas

Well-Known Member
Thank you for the thoughtful response and insight, Brother @Goodboy. I really do not disagree with a thing that you have said.

At first I almost if not did make her an idol of sorts. I didn't smother her with a drowning affection the point of it being obnoxious, rather I seen to her first in all things above the Lord. It would make me very angry at the Lord that he would allow anything to happen to my wife, who I just think has a lovely spirit, despite what's going on now. That is a huge reason that I love her so, is that she balances out my thick darkness.

Regarding Bible study and household leadership, those are actually taken care of. We study and talk about the Rapture nigh every day. I take care of the household decisions as far as leadership goes, but those decisions are informed by her desires as well, if that makes any sense.

I know it's been a long running problem for you, it's been about two years for me, so let us pray for one another. But I'm totally with you, I want the Rapture to happen right now. As in not another second gone! Ha! Seriously, there is nothing that I want to happen more at this point, and thankfully, my wife truly is on board with this.

Maybe it's just her hormones where she is getting close to middle age and some insecurity with me being younger perhaps? In any case, thank you again and I love you!
 

Eric Nicholas

Well-Known Member
Brother i'm thinking it might be a possibility that your wife is having slight insecurity issues in relation to her age (It definitely didn't help that your brothers missus made a pass at you as that probably inflammed things to the next level).

As hard as it as ,You're doing the right thing by sticking by her, keep praying about it and if you can take her out a bit more.

Nothin like a date to bring back memory lane of how good things were when you first met
I think that you are hovering right above target, brother. It is getting hard to stick this out. In my flesh, I'm thinking "Alright, I'm so ready to leave this and find someone or nobody at all and do something normal". She doesn't want to go out with me because she thinks other people look at me. Last time I took her to dinner, she just kept remarking how so and so was looking at me/us and making faces. So we really do not go out for that reason.

Thanks for reading about my issue and commenting. I love you, brother.
 

Tall Timbers

Imperfect but forgiven
Eric, I'm not familiar enough with your situation to offer advice, which I'm always "inclined" to offer when I think it might help.

If I were in your shoes, knowing as little as I know about the situation, I would fairly frequently pray and fast. It's hard to do that inconspicuously when you're part of a household, but it's best when it's kept between you and the Lord. When I fast, good things tend to come from it. I've always wondered why it seems to be a good thing to do (I know the Bible talks about it positively). I think maybe the denial of personal needs (food and sometimes drink) for a sufficient period of time (the length of a sufficient time may vary!) helps one to keep their focus on God and to be quiet in His presence.

One thing I've noticed. A byproduct of my fasting is more compassion for others. Even my posts at RF will tend to be kinder and gentler during and after a period of fasting and prayer.

It sounds that whatever is going on with your wife is destructive to your marriage. When the results of our behavior prove destructive in nature, it can be symptomatic of some form of neurological disorder. For a couple of decades I had a spouse who did the oddest destructive things. Behavior that was simply incomprehensible to me. She was quite abusive to me in a number of ways and was constantly hurling false accusations at me and telling people in the community that I was abusing her in any number of ways. She enjoyed the attention she received from people who believed she was being oppressed by an evil husband. The public aspect of her game wasn't done in my presence, but the signs showed up wherever we went. Move to a new town and find a new church. Friendly church members who after a while stop greeting me and turn their backs on me... that sort of thing. Over time the Lord showed me most of what was going on, and it was worse than I ever could have imagined.

At some point I thought maybe the problem was me and I purchased a book that described abusive men. Like many victims experience, I was thinking maybe it was all my fault... The thing was, while reading the book I recognized most all of my wife's abusive actions being described and my eyes began to open. From there I started checking out books on mental illnesses from the library. Many of the books were worthless, but eventually the Lord led me to the best possible books for the situation I was in. I call that the education I never wanted. I became very knowledgeable in some areas of mental health and was able to diagram my wife's mental illnesses along with her co-morbids.

With this understanding of my spouse, and the knowledge that she had some neurological disorders that pretty well explained her behavior, I have to say that the knowledge I gained helped bring peace in my life. Instead of constantly struggling to help my wife when I had no idea what she needed and to receive nothing but rejection and abuse in return (and this from the first day of our marriage), I came to understand that about the best I could do was continue to be kind to her, to pray for her, to manage our household as the head, and to remain married to her.

Over all the years of my marriage I've been a victim of every kind of abuse, extra-marital affairs and on and on. I suffered greatly. I'm a very trusting person and before I was married I just couldn't imagine that two people wouldn't be able to work for good together. We sleep in separate beds now by my design, because it prevents beatings I received while sleeping. We've not had relations in more years than I can count and I'm completely at peace with that and with the marriage itself.

An unfortunate byproduct of our relationship was that our children did not see the behavior of mom and dad in love. I loved my wife but she always held me at arms distance. I was not permitted to be affectionate with her. Any attempts would end in rejection. I can only hope that my children, the 4 of them, might someday experience a healthy loving marriage. While I've not experienced that, I believe it to be one of the most wonderful things we can experience in this life, 2nd to our relationship with Christ.

According to the books I studied, some psychiatrists aren't willing to take patients with my wife's main issue. That's a clue for any Psychiatrists we might have on this Board. My wife has seen specialists and been medicated for neurological disorders that I don't believe she has, but it isn't that hard for people to learn about a condition that doesn't come with too much stigma and convince someone that you've got it... I've never been allowed to give input to any of the specialists she's seen, which is unfortunate. Nowadays, I know when she's on a different medication when there's a change in her behavior around the house.

My marriage is 30 years and going. It's not been good. I love my children and three of the four have given their lives to Christ. I've seen much fruit from one of them that confirms their life in Christ, so some good has come of it. Additionally, my own suffering over these years has drawn me closer to God. I can thank the Lord for that. While I missed out on the wonderful of experience of sharing life with someone with whom you're truly one in Christ, I'm at peace. I love the Lord. My experiences during the short time of this mortal life will shape me for all of eternity and I suspect the benefits of everything I've lived through will be clear.

So Eric, be hopeful, be a blessing to your family, and find peace in Christ. If He seems far away at the moment, He might be as close as a few missed meals and some hours of quietly waiting on Him without distractions. :pray :pray :pray
 

Eric Nicholas

Well-Known Member
Eric, I'm not familiar enough with your situation to offer advice, which I'm always "inclined" to offer when I think it might help.

If I were in your shoes, knowing as little as I know about the situation, I would fairly frequently pray and fast. It's hard to do that inconspicuously when you're part of a household, but it's best when it's kept between you and the Lord. When I fast, good things tend to come from it. I've always wondered why it seems to be a good thing to do (I know the Bible talks about it positively). I think maybe the denial of personal needs (food and sometimes drink) for a sufficient period of time (the length of a sufficient time may vary!) helps one to keep their focus on God and to be quiet in His presence.

One thing I've noticed. A byproduct of my fasting is more compassion for others. Even my posts at RF will tend to be kinder and gentler during and after a period of fasting and prayer.

It sounds that whatever is going on with your wife is destructive to your marriage. When the results of our behavior prove destructive in nature, it can be symptomatic of some form of neurological disorder. For a couple of decades I had a spouse who did the oddest destructive things. Behavior that was simply incomprehensible to me. She was quite abusive to me in a number of ways and was constantly hurling false accusations at me and telling people in the community that I was abusing her in any number of ways. She enjoyed the attention she received from people who believed she was being oppressed by an evil husband. The public aspect of her game wasn't done in my presence, but the signs showed up wherever we went. Move to a new town and find a new church. Friendly church members who after a while stop greeting me and turn their backs on me... that sort of thing. Over time the Lord showed me most of what was going on, and it was worse than I ever could have imagined.

At some point I thought maybe the problem was me and I purchased a book that described abusive men. Like many victims experience, I was thinking maybe it was all my fault... The thing was, while reading the book I recognized most all of my wife's abusive actions being described and my eyes began to open. From there I started checking out books on mental illnesses from the library. Many of the books were worthless, but eventually the Lord led me to the best possible books for the situation I was in. I call that the education I never wanted. I became very knowledgeable in some areas of mental health and was able to diagram my wife's mental illnesses along with her co-morbids.

With this understanding of my spouse, and the knowledge that she had some neurological disorders that pretty well explained her behavior, I have to say that the knowledge I gained helped bring peace in my life. Instead of constantly struggling to help my wife when I had no idea what she needed and to receive nothing but rejection and abuse in return (and this from the first day of our marriage), I came to understand that about the best I could do was continue to be kind to her, to pray for her, to manage our household as the head, and to remain married to her.

Over all the years of my marriage I've been a victim of every kind of abuse, extra-marital affairs and on and on. I suffered greatly. I'm a very trusting person and before I was married I just couldn't imagine that two people wouldn't be able to work for good together. We sleep in separate beds now by my design, because it prevents beatings I received while sleeping. We've not had relations in more years than I can count and I'm completely at peace with that and with the marriage itself.

An unfortunate byproduct of our relationship was that our children did not see the behavior of mom and dad in love. I loved my wife but she always held me at arms distance. I was not permitted to be affectionate with her. Any attempts would end in rejection. I can only hope that my children, the 4 of them, might someday experience a healthy loving marriage. While I've not experienced that, I believe it to be one of the most wonderful things we can experience in this life, 2nd to our relationship with Christ.

According to the books I studied, some psychiatrists aren't willing to take patients with my wife's main issue. That's a clue for any Psychiatrists we might have on this Board. My wife has seen specialists and been medicated for neurological disorders that I don't believe she has, but it isn't that hard for people to learn about a condition that doesn't come with too much stigma and convince someone that you've got it... I've never been allowed to give input to any of the specialists she's seen, which is unfortunate. Nowadays, I know when she's on a different medication when there's a change in her behavior around the house.

My marriage is 30 years and going. It's not been good. I love my children and three of the four have given their lives to Christ. I've seen much fruit from one of them that confirms their life in Christ, so some good has come of it. Additionally, my own suffering over these years has drawn me closer to God. I can thank the Lord for that. While I missed out on the wonderful of experience of sharing life with someone with whom you're truly one in Christ, I'm at peace. I love the Lord. My experiences during the short time of this mortal life will shape me for all of eternity and I suspect the benefits of everything I've lived through will be clear.

So Eric, be hopeful, be a blessing to your family, and find peace in Christ. If He seems far away at the moment, He might be as close as a few missed meals and some hours of quietly waiting on Him without distractions. :pray :pray :pray
Wow, TT. Thank you for sharing such a personal aspect of your life with me. I hate that you were so abused like that, honestly it's a bit shocking. You seem like such an intelligent and nice man who's very balanced, which is hard to find. But I do know that those of us who have wives and relationships of various kinds, that those positives aren't regarded as such.

I totally agree with you on prayer and fasting, as I partake in that, even my wife does, granted it's far more difficult for her. I know you aren't looking for sorrow, but I truly am heartbroken that you have been in that type of marriage where you were so abused. Some men won't talk about it like that due to some false bravado, so again, I appreciate the honesty.

She's been evaluated and has been given a clean bill of health in all regards, go figure. I'm going to keep pushing through, regardless of what happens. My King must come first, which I have failed in too many times.
 

UntilTheWholeWorldHears

Well-Known Member
My two cents and I'm by no means an expert in relationships.

Something is making your wife very insecure.

You may be caught in this vicious cycle that goes round and round. Not knowing how to get out of it.

Perhaps, you need to start all over again. Think about what brought you together.

Somewhere in there, you had special moments where she felt secure, loved, etc.

Try to reenact those times if possible.

Unfortunately, I don't have a whole a lot of advice, other than inviting God to be the center of your marriage.

Seek professional Christian ( Bible believing )counseling.

Gen 3:16, because of the curse, the beginning of conflict between a husband and wife.

If both of you are born again believers, Jesus is the antidote and can restore your relationship.

I will pray for both of you!
 

Eric Nicholas

Well-Known Member
My two cents and I'm by no means an expert in relationships.

Something is making your wife very insecure.

You may be caught in this vicious cycle that goes round and round. Not knowing how to get out of it.

Perhaps, you need to start all over again. Think about what brought you together.

Somewhere in there, you had special moments where she felt secure, loved, etc.

Try to reenact those times if possible.

Unfortunately, I don't have a whole a lot of advice, other than inviting God to be the center of your marriage.

Seek professional Christian ( Bible believing )counseling.

Gen 3:16, because of the curse, the beginning of conflict between a husband and wife.

If both of you are born again believers, Jesus is the antidote and can restore your relationship.

I will pray for both of you!
God bless you, brother, and thank you for that advice. I do appreciate those prayers a lot! I'll get to the drawing board and keep it Christ-centered.
 

Spartan Sprinter 1

Formerly known as Shaun
I think that you are hovering right above target, brother. It is getting hard to stick this out. In my flesh, I'm thinking "Alright, I'm so ready to leave this and find someone or nobody at all and do something normal". She doesn't want to go out with me because she thinks other people look at me. Last time I took her to dinner, she just kept remarking how so and so was looking at me/us and making faces. So we really do not go out for that reason.

Thanks for reading about my issue and commenting. I love you, brother.
Anytime brother
 

Eric Nicholas

Well-Known Member
:praying :hug I don't think I'm qualified to give advice, but I feel for you and anyone else in a marriage like that.

I do have to wonder what believers who deny their spouse physical intimacy make of 1 Corinthians 7:1-5
Thanks for the prayers, brother, and for the verses. She and I just got through talking and it was more of the same. We are in separate rooms and she came in started asking me the same questions and making the same statements. "Why are you with me?" "You want me gone." "You like other women and men." It's wearing me a bit thin and I'm afraid that I'm going to wind up being tempted outside of this marriage.
 

cheeky200386

Well-Known Member
Eric, I'm not familiar enough with your situation to offer advice, which I'm always "inclined" to offer when I think it might help.

If I were in your shoes, knowing as little as I know about the situation, I would fairly frequently pray and fast. It's hard to do that inconspicuously when you're part of a household, but it's best when it's kept between you and the Lord. When I fast, good things tend to come from it. I've always wondered why it seems to be a good thing to do (I know the Bible talks about it positively). I think maybe the denial of personal needs (food and sometimes drink) for a sufficient period of time (the length of a sufficient time may vary!) helps one to keep their focus on God and to be quiet in His presence.

One thing I've noticed. A byproduct of my fasting is more compassion for others. Even my posts at RF will tend to be kinder and gentler during and after a period of fasting and prayer.

It sounds that whatever is going on with your wife is destructive to your marriage. When the results of our behavior prove destructive in nature, it can be symptomatic of some form of neurological disorder. For a couple of decades I had a spouse who did the oddest destructive things. Behavior that was simply incomprehensible to me. She was quite abusive to me in a number of ways and was constantly hurling false accusations at me and telling people in the community that I was abusing her in any number of ways. She enjoyed the attention she received from people who believed she was being oppressed by an evil husband. The public aspect of her game wasn't done in my presence, but the signs showed up wherever we went. Move to a new town and find a new church. Friendly church members who after a while stop greeting me and turn their backs on me... that sort of thing. Over time the Lord showed me most of what was going on, and it was worse than I ever could have imagined.

At some point I thought maybe the problem was me and I purchased a book that described abusive men. Like many victims experience, I was thinking maybe it was all my fault... The thing was, while reading the book I recognized most all of my wife's abusive actions being described and my eyes began to open. From there I started checking out books on mental illnesses from the library. Many of the books were worthless, but eventually the Lord led me to the best possible books for the situation I was in. I call that the education I never wanted. I became very knowledgeable in some areas of mental health and was able to diagram my wife's mental illnesses along with her co-morbids.

With this understanding of my spouse, and the knowledge that she had some neurological disorders that pretty well explained her behavior, I have to say that the knowledge I gained helped bring peace in my life. Instead of constantly struggling to help my wife when I had no idea what she needed and to receive nothing but rejection and abuse in return (and this from the first day of our marriage), I came to understand that about the best I could do was continue to be kind to her, to pray for her, to manage our household as the head, and to remain married to her.

Over all the years of my marriage I've been a victim of every kind of abuse, extra-marital affairs and on and on. I suffered greatly. I'm a very trusting person and before I was married I just couldn't imagine that two people wouldn't be able to work for good together. We sleep in separate beds now by my design, because it prevents beatings I received while sleeping. We've not had relations in more years than I can count and I'm completely at peace with that and with the marriage itself.

An unfortunate byproduct of our relationship was that our children did not see the behavior of mom and dad in love. I loved my wife but she always held me at arms distance. I was not permitted to be affectionate with her. Any attempts would end in rejection. I can only hope that my children, the 4 of them, might someday experience a healthy loving marriage. While I've not experienced that, I believe it to be one of the most wonderful things we can experience in this life, 2nd to our relationship with Christ.

According to the books I studied, some psychiatrists aren't willing to take patients with my wife's main issue. That's a clue for any Psychiatrists we might have on this Board. My wife has seen specialists and been medicated for neurological disorders that I don't believe she has, but it isn't that hard for people to learn about a condition that doesn't come with too much stigma and convince someone that you've got it... I've never been allowed to give input to any of the specialists she's seen, which is unfortunate. Nowadays, I know when she's on a different medication when there's a change in her behavior around the house.

My marriage is 30 years and going. It's not been good. I love my children and three of the four have given their lives to Christ. I've seen much fruit from one of them that confirms their life in Christ, so some good has come of it. Additionally, my own suffering over these years has drawn me closer to God. I can thank the Lord for that. While I missed out on the wonderful of experience of sharing life with someone with whom you're truly one in Christ, I'm at peace. I love the Lord. My experiences during the short time of this mortal life will shape me for all of eternity and I suspect the benefits of everything I've lived through will be clear.

So Eric, be hopeful, be a blessing to your family, and find peace in Christ. If He seems far away at the moment, He might be as close as a few missed meals and some hours of quietly waiting on Him without distractions. :pray :pray :pray
Sorry to intrude on this thread for men only! I am just blown away by your testimony. I love you even more Tall Timbers. You have faced so much and yet have such a gentle spirit. God bless you. I will be praying for you too.
 

cheeky200386

Well-Known Member
Thanks for the prayers, brother, and for the verses. She and I just got through talking and it was more of the same. We are in separate rooms and she came in started asking me the same questions and making the same statements. "Why are you with me?" "You want me gone." "You like other women and men." It's wearing me a bit thin and I'm afraid that I'm going to wind up being tempted outside of this marriage.
I wonder if that's what Satan wants all along. I'm sorry to hear you're living with such an insecure women. I wonder what she would do if when she asks you why you're with her since you look at others and you said "Because I think you're hot" and then just grabbed and her took her to the bed for sex. Would she reject you?

I'll pray for your marriage too! Ok I'll be leaving now, hehehe
 

Eric Nicholas

Well-Known Member
I wonder if that's what Satan wants all along. I'm sorry to hear you're living with such an insecure women. I wonder what she would do if when she asks you why you're with her since you look at others and you said "Because I think you're hot" and then just grabbed and her took her to the bed for sex. Would she reject you?

I'll pray for your marriage too! Ok I'll be leaving now, hehehe
I wouldn't be surprised if that's what he wanted. He's terrible like that. Haha, thanks for your straightforward suggestion, but I've actually done that very thing. I think the insecurity has just killed the drive for anything, really. I only have eyes for her, but this is such a persistent problem that I fear that I may start to wander. I can feel it creeping inside of me. Anyway, enough of my drama. Thanks for the prayers, Cheeky.
 
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