My 16 year old daughter

**FaithInChrist** · October-12th-2011, 02:18 AM

My daughter is a wonderful Christian teenager. She accepted Christ as her savior when she was 12 years old and she has made decisions in her life based on her spirituality.

When she was 14 years old she made an abstinence pact with God and for Christmas later that year all she wanted was a purity ring. You have to know how blessed I have felt over the years, knowing that my daughter has a level of protection (born again) that many teens these days do not. Thank you Jesus.

She started dating this year, she just turned 16 in July. She has mostly been out on group dates and didn't have a real boyfriend. Well she was asked to be a girlfriend to this young man and she said yes. After she said yes she discovered that he had recently broken up with another girl that he had dated for 2 years and that her boyfriend and his ex had a sexual relationship. She was honest with him and let him know that she was not interested in sex until marriage and he said he was okay with that. My daughter got the feeling that he wasn't really onboard with the no sex thing, and my daughter started avoiding him because he would try to kiss her and stuff. She broke up with him a couple of days ago and she was so upset, because he was upset. She is in the dumps because she honestly feels like there are no boys out there that will also wait until marriage, she feels like she will have to be alone until she is in her 20's, when she is ready for a serious relationship, while all her friends are out dating and having fun. I am so scared that she will change her mind and decide it's not worth waiting for, in this world nothing broadcasts to a child that sex is meant for marriage. I know she didn't give any indication that she is changing her mind, and she still wears her ring, plus she did break up with that kid... I just feel so bad for her and her breaking heart. I don't know what to tell her, I am sure there have to be some young men, who are also waiting until marriage, but there are none around here, or so it would appear. Sad thing is, where we recently moved she doesn't even have a girlfriend that is waiting for sex. In Colleyville where we used to live we needed two hands to count her church friends that were abstaining. Please ladies pray for my daughter, to find like-minded friends. It is so important to a young Christian to have friends that are also dedicated to God's will.

**micah719** · October-12th-2011, 12:17 PM

A picked flower can't be unpicked.

Praying for you all, and that The Lord put a hedge around her.

**anath** · October-12th-2011, 02:59 PM

Praying she will wear the full armor of God and will stand strong in the Lord and in the power of His might

**readytogo** · October-12th-2011, 03:01 PM

It's so difficult for a young girl these days.

for your daughter.

**ShilohRose** · October-12th-2011, 04:26 PM

**FaithInChrist** · October-13th-2011, 12:33 AM

Thank you for the words and prayers. She was able to go to youth group at her old church tonight and was able to connect with some good solid brothers and sisters in Christ. I had a talk with her this afternoon and my daughter feels that she is here in this new school to help be an example for Jesus and to help lead other teens to Christ. I know that we are all martyrs in this world if we are saints for our Lord. It is hard to see your child suffer, but I trust that Christ will be walking with her in the halls of her school and help her to be able to find the right words and to give her the strength she needs to stand by her beleifs. That you for continued prayers, for my daughter and for any other child that happens to be a teenager in todays world.

**anath** · October-14th-2011, 03:34 PM

Thanks for the update. The Lord is SO GOOD!
Will continue prayer

**mattfivefour** · October-14th-2011, 10:59 PM

I had a talk with her this afternoon and my daughter feels that she is here in this new school to help be an example for Jesus and to help lead other teens to Christ.

Exactly. And witnessing is not something we say as much as something we are. We ARE witnesses for Him. Our manner of life is what gives credence to the words we say. If our behavior is not in sync with what we say, then our message is discarded. Keep praying for your daughter ... and we will, too.

**Lynn** · November-21st-2011, 10:45 AM

Originally Posted by FaithInChrist

Thank you for the words and prayers. . . . my daughter feels that she is here in this new school to help be an example for Jesus and to help lead other teens to Christ. I know that we are all martyrs in this world if we are saints for our Lord. It is hard to see your child suffer, but I trust that Christ will be walking with her in the halls of her school and help her to be able to find the right words and to give her the strength she needs to stand by her beliefs. That you for continued prayers, for my daughter and for any other child that happens to be a teenager in today's world.

Maybe this will work for your family, but majority of the time, the Christian teens get carried right along with their friends, eventually. Young people have a very strong 'herding' instinct in addition to their hormones going full steam (I used to teach high school and later college). Perhaps your daughter is strong enough to withstand the pressure (a few do seem to manage public school and come out of it all right, especially if they have a Christian teacher/mentor at school who encourages them).

If you think ahead to a couple of years, when your daughter is 18 and ready for college. Will she stay home (under your & dh authority) and attend jr. college (good choice) or will she go to state college where they have co-ed dorms nowadays? (My husband is a professor, so we know what all of that is about). What I'm trying to say is that whatever track she is on now, will be the same track she will likely be on in a couple of years. Christian friends her age are so very necessary during these important years when 'her entire future' will be based on the choices she makes, both now and in the next two or three years. Is private Christian school an option where you live?

**rosdanic** · November-23rd-2011, 05:44 AM

Hands down to your daughter for being a responsible woman.

**nemia** · January-5th-2012, 06:47 AM

I can understand that it's difficult for her to believe, if she's alone and has no friends who have the same feelings like her. Modern society doesn't want to understand that they overrate sex. It's something personal, something private, something that it's worth to wait! I will pray for your and your daughter therefore she will gets the strength to go through these hard times.